Post # 1
ok…so I am having like 3 bridal showers. one at work, one for my side of the family and one for my Fiance family.
this was so not my decision but that is how it ended up happening. so i bought some gifts for my Fiance aunts who are putting together details of the shower. but then…i thought well i guess i should get his mom something too. she really is not helping plan but it would be awful if i got her sisters something but not her. and then i was talking to his aunt on the phone the other night and she mentioned how her mom(FI grammie) choose the place and has just started helping. and then she said that his other grandma wants to help too. so i am supposed to get 5 people gifts for throwing me a bridal shower!? is this common? i dont mind i just think it is kind of silly. i mean..where does it end? how do you determine who you buy presents for when it comes to who is helping with your shower?
for my other shower, my two sisters and my mom are helping but also a friend of mine and another friend are kind of helping. i dont know…its weird. i just dont know where that line is?
Post # 3
also, do you give anyone gifts who threw your bridal shower? i mean, i think everyone has a little part in it. i just dont know the etiquette
Post # 4
crapy! i mean “do you give anyone at work gifts who throws you a shower”!
Post # 5
I honestly never heard of giving hostess gifts until I read it here. Almost every shower I’ve been to or given has been a surprise, so the bride wouln’t have a clue who was hosting it til after the fact!
I’m sure others will have some answers for you,tho.
Post # 6
I think it would be fine to discreetly give a (small) gift to the 2 people who are listed as hosting the shower on the invitation. For the others, I think a thank you card should take care of it. 🙂
Post # 7
I think a small gift of appreciation to the top people who hosted is appropriate. I will be giving gifts to all the bridesmaids and mothers (7 of them!) because I know they are all helping to finance it, and they are helping with ideas and decorations. I received hostess gifts at my sister’s bridal shower but did not receive one at my SIL’s bridal shower. So sometimes they’re given and sometimes not.
You could do something small & inexpensive (box of chocolates) with a heartfelt card.
Post # 8
i never heard of giving gifts for the bridal shower. i assume that is because most people give the bridal party just 1 gift…and it is a thank you for all they have done for you.
Post # 9
I’d never heard of giving a gift to the shower host till I joined this site, and I def didn’t get a gift for co-hosting my best friend’s shower last summer (nor was I expecting one). If you are deadset on gifting the hosts, with that many I think it’s aboslutely fine to give just a trinket or momento with a nice card isntead of a more costly gift.
Post # 10
I’m with smyley and twalila. I never heard of it until I saw it here either.
I wasn’t planning on doing anything but I like the idea of getting a couple people something cute like a small umbrella and body wash for a “shower” thank you. Mine is a surprise but I know my mom, aunts, 2 MOH’s, Future Mother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law def. have a hand in it. I’ll send it or give it to them afterward.
Post # 11
i think a thank you card after the fact is customary…
Post # 12
Everyone, but something small. Especially grandmas – at least with my grandmas, a card would be more meaningful than more stuff (they already have too much junk!). Or maybe a nice photo album with some pics you took during the shower a week later or so.