Gifts for bridesmaids question..

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@dreamer1288:  Sounds pretty much what I am doing.  I bought them pretty robes & slippers (not wedding-y), a spa day a few days before, their jewelry (which is for the wedding, but still something kinda special since i made it for them). I was thinking of adding a clutch/purse too.

i would probably do more if I hadn’t given them a gift card for their dress/shoes (they are choosing their own).  But I am curious to read other opinions.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@dreamer1288:  Well if I didn’t make it clear, I think what you’ve done seems great.  The only thing I would add is a personal note letting them know just how much their friendship/relationship means to you.  Always a nice touch.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here… lol

(In so much as I know too much about this topic due to my upbringing & career)

To be sure they are all very nice items.

BUT the “Traditional Rule” of Etiquette is…

That is they are to be used at YOUR Wedding, then they are not truly Thank You Gifts (IF that indeed was your intention)

Ie:  Realistically… the cozies, the robes, the manicures and the lunch all tie back to YOUR Wedding Day  (and to some extent the Picture Frame & Photo)

TRUE Thank You Gifts for the Bridal Party, are meant to be things that come with “no strings attached” items… things beyond the Wedding… that you give to the person because of the person they are (selected for them personally based on their likes and interests) and the wonderful friendship / relationship that you share with each person.

True Thank You Gifts for the Attendants, should be something that are chosen for each of them personally and chosen with love and care

So no matchy-matchy EVERYONE gets the same thing (that just shows not a lot of thought went into the process… ya just walked into a store and ordered 3 of the same thing)

Although… it is perfectly acceptable to give them similar items…

So for example, if you decide upon Jewellery… then you could give each gal a different pair of earrings… taking into consideration that (a) They must all LOVE earrings, and (b) each set would have to be very much representative of who they are… and your relationship with them.

These gifts are most often presented at either the Bridal Luncheon (an event hosted by the Bride for her Bridesmaids… again an act of kindness / thank you by the Bride) OR at the Rehearsal Dinner

Personally, I like Bridal Lunches… waaaay more fun.  And not quite as embarrassing as putting your loved ones on the spot to show off their gifts (I am old school in this, I don’t think that gifts should be opened in public… if there are attendees who won’t be getting a present as well)

Hope this helps,

PS… If you have more Questions in this regard, just ask, I am happy to help.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Oh gosh Ladies, I am unsure what happened with the above post …

Sorry for it being so difficult to read.

 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Waldorf Astoria, Chicago

I keep getting nervous about this too!  I’ve never been a bridesmaid so I don’t know what is traditional to receive…Having said that I plan on getting my MOH (best friend) a Tiffany’s necklace.  My FSIL (and a BM) a coach wristlet, and each of my sisters (also BM) something small…but not sure what yet.  They will all also get a gift card for Mani’s the day before the wedding, a robe w/ their monograms (for photos while getting ready), champagne flutes with their monograms for mimosas while getting ready, personalized hangers (again for photos of their dresses).  I felt like the last items were “for the wedding” so can’t be counted as gifts!  I’m also getting my good friend who I wanted in the bridal party but she is doing a reading a best friend bracelet from Kate Spade.  I think you have to get each BM something that is unique to them, and I don’t think it matters if it cost $5 or $500, just that you put some thought into something special just for them 🙂

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I don’t want anything with my name or monogram on it, not everyone feels this way so try and find out how your ladies feel before getting anything personalized.

If gifts have anything to do with the wedding or you want them for photo ops, they aren’t really gifts.  If you wouldn’t buy something for a birthday/holiday gift you shouldn’t get it for a thank you gift either.  

They also don’t all have to be the same, if bridesmaid A likes bags but bridesmaid B perfers jewelry etc you can get them each something different.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@This Time Round:  that was helpful, thank you.  I have just been picking up little things and/or making small gifts for my two BMs for the last 6 months or so.  While nothing completely matches, they are similar items (variations in color, style).  I’ll be sure to add something unique to the gift basket though, For each. I just want them both to feel special & beautiful.

With that said, I’m a bit disappointed (haha).  I’ve been a BM so many times and have always received a matching gift (identical) to the other BMs.  But some of the brides included a lovely personal note/letter which I continue to treasure.

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