Post # 1
Does anyone have any gift ideas for parents of the bride and groom to give as a token of appreciation the night before the wedding? I was thinking that maybe some type of judaica gift would be clever and thoughtful but I can’t think of anything! So far, all I’ve come up with are some pretty artistic paintings but they all seem so generic. Anyone have any thoughts or ideas?
Post # 3
We’re getting my mom a hammock, but thats also going to be her birthday and Mother’s Day gift since it will be pretty expensive. We’re probably going to get FMIL a nice, but inexpensive peice of jewelry ($30-40 range), since she wasn’t quite as involved in wedding planning.
Post # 4
We got our dads gift certificates, and our moms necklaces from this amazing Israili artist.
Post # 5
Oh I like this topic! We currently have NO IDEA what to get the parents. It’s so hard to try to get them anything (both sets) because if they want something, generally they buy it. And if they don’t buy it, it’s because it costs too much, and then we definitely can’t afford it!!!
I usually try to do some sort of sentimental gifts for Christmas, but I’m out of ideas for the wedding. Ugh. Hope some more ideas show up on here! :o)
Post # 6
we got my mom and dad a weekend in charleston for late march (a little over a month after the wedding) at this really cute B&B down there. we got engaged there and they had a huge part in planning that so i thought it was a sweet gesture.
we bought his parents a stupid gift! haha a ceiling fan for their living room. its huge and expensive..well like $200 but it was all F’s idea..i went along with it. they have this huge living room that looks almost like a chapel and they have this dinky white little ceiling fan so we bought them a huge 72 inch dark wood ceiling fan. strange gift i know. i wanted to get his mom nice riding boots. maybe for mothers day…
Post # 7
I Got the groom a watch and engraved the clasp…
For the parents….we didnt get anything (we paid for the whole wedding ourselves), but if I did get them a gift I think a Judaica gift is nice OR you could get them a really nice picture frame, and when you get your photos back from the wedding you could get them the photo of you and the new Family 😉
Post # 8
Okay after reading this, now I’m confused….I posted a thread one time about gifts for mother and father who aren’t paying or helping with the wedding. Most of the replies I got were telling me that you get a gift for the parents as a thank you for raising you…which made me feel really selfish for considering not gifting….so which is it? Gift them for raising you or gift them as a thank you for all the support and help with the wedding? I wasn’t planning on gifting my parents or his, we are paying for everything ourselves and have literally had NO help in the planning….whatsoever. My dad barely said congratulations, his parents have complained about traveling…so what do I do?
Post # 9
Our parents did not pay for the wedding, and we did not give them gifts. I do not see a wedding as an occasion where I have to thank my parents for raising me. It’s about celebrating my new marriage, which in my view has little to do with my parents.
Post # 10
@doingathing: That’s what I thought! The posters on my thread made me sound like a spoiled bitch for not giving gifts to my parents…They said it’s a thank you for everything they’ve done up to that point in your life. I’m 27, been on my own since I was 16…bought my own cars, my own house…paying for my own wedding….it’s not that they don’t deserve a gift but I was just curious as to if and what to get them and people made me feel bad for posting this. Thanks for clearing this up
Post # 11
whenever i’m looking at ketubot i always notice they have “parents’ gift” versions. i’ve never seen one, but it must be traditional for some people.
what about a nice pair of shabbat candles or a challah cover?
Post # 12
I’m not sure what we’ll do for the parents. I’m not even sure what, if anything, they’ll be able (in my parents’ case) or willing (in his parents’ case!) to contribute to the wedding, financially. Even if we pay for the entire thing ourselves, I think giving a gift to the parents is a nice gesture. What we can afford remains to be seen. But currently, I’m thinking of giving each set of parents a gift certificate to the restaurant where we’re having the wedding, so they can go back on their own some time and have a romantic dinner. Then maybe a framed photo or small album when we get our wedding pictures back.
Post # 13
@kitzy– we saw them when we were ordering our ketubah, too. Here’s the link….
Post # 14
silver picture fame w/your photos
Post # 15
My only sister is already married, so we are going to get my mother a piece of jewerly with all of her (now) 4 “kid’s” birthstones in it, as a symbol of our family unity. Don’t know what to do about the dads.
Post # 16
@bubblebride: I just thought of the same idea! I think it’s a great gift! Our parents are significantly contributing to the cost of the wedding, so I want to get them a meaningful gift. Where did you get yours? And what was your budget???