Post # 1
We are almost done buying our gifts for our parents. My question is, do you give the gifts to them as a couple or give them separately… like he gives to our dads, and I give to our moms?
I’m only asking becuase I just have his mom’s left to buy, and the card that is attached to the necklace is the verbiage about raising the man of my dreams, etc. I think that would seem weird coming from both. The necklace I got for my mom says something on the outside like, “Thanks for your infinite love”.
Now that I think about it, he has bought th items for our dad’s, and I have bought the items for our mom’s. Not sure if that makes a difference or not, though.
Post # 2
I don’t think it matters. Our gifts were jointly given, but we each wrote cards to our parents separately.
Post # 3
(Caveat: I am no etiquette expert!)
I think you could probably get away with doing it however you want. Are you giving them during the rehearsal dinner? I think if you both stood up, and said some nice things together about how much you love and appreciate your parents, and then you said “FMIL, thank you so much for … blah blah personal things…” and then give her the gift, it won’t seem weird. And he can do the same for your dad. If you both stand up together, it’ll be clear the gifts are coming from both of you, but since you specifically picked it out, you should be the one to explain and pass over the gift.
Post # 4
LoveMyBrit: We haven’t really discussed this yet, actually – so good question!
I’ve had friends give their parents their gifts the morning of the wedding… but I’m sure doing it at the rehearsal dinner wouldn’t be a bad option either since that’s when we’ll give out the other gifts.
Post # 5
Kacie209: FH and I are going to give the gifts to our parents together. I don’t think you need to split up the gift giving unless you’d like to.
We are giving our gifts to people privately since each gift is different.
Post # 6
LilRhodyGem: Yeah, I thought privately would be more special than altogether.
I’ll have to check with FI and see what he thinks, since he said I should get his mom’s gift bought this week so they’re all done.
I also planned on buying a picture frame for my parents, which would be engraved with our names and the date. FI didn’t think his parents would want one… but we’ll see.