(Closed) Gifts to the Bride & Groom from the Bridal Party

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should the bridal party give the bride and groom an additional wedding gift?
    Of course! It's the right thing to do : (46 votes)
    37 %
    No, paying to be in the wedding is enough : (43 votes)
    34 %
    No, giving a financial supplement to the wedding day costs counts plenty as a gift. : (37 votes)
    29 %
  • Post # 3
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    9147 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    I would consider chipping in for the trolley to be my gift to the couple since that is not normally an expense for the bridal party.

    Post # 4
    Member
    4 posts
    Wannabee
    • Wedding: October 2013

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    Post # 5
    Member
    307 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I don’t know, they are making a gift towards the wedding with the contribution. I would be satisfied with that if I was the bride.

    I know that I am asking my MOH to make the wedding cake (which is just small, keeping it simple) and that we have agreed it will be her wedding gift to us. I am not really expecting gifts from most of our guests because of travel costs, so having the bridal party be able to be there and stand with us will absolutely be enough!

    It’s different depending on situations of course. If there were no travel costs, they didn’t have to buy bridesmaids/groomsmen outfits or anything like that, then a further gift would probably be a nice gesture.

    Post # 6
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    1418 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    2/6 bridal party gave us gifts, we didn’t expect them from anybody and weren’t upset that we didn’t get from 4/6 since they paid for their dresses/suits and in some cases also flights and hotels. We did really appreciate those who DID get us a gift though, I must say, it was a nice added thing like “awww you SO didn’t have to do that, how extra thoughtful”

    Post # 7
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    2070 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I’m with you, OP, but I’ve noticed a lot of people don’t feel the same. I’m ultra generous with my friends and they are with me. If I’m in a bridal party, it is because they’re my best friends! So I am happy to go above and beyond. But I’ve learned you just can’t expect that from other people. So if you want to get a gift, go right ahead and do it. I’m sure the bride and groom will appreciate it and remember it!

    Post # 10
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    2641 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @Blonde17Jess:  I have given very generous gifts as the bridal party. However, my dress, hair and make up were provided by the bride. If I had to pay a couple of hundred already, for these I might not be as generous. 

    ETA I just noticed you commented on these. Yup, if it were me id give a more generous gift, esp if they were close friends. If I had no money I’d probably DIY something thoughtful 🙂

    Post # 11
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    853 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Not everyone can afford to throw crazy money around just because it’s a wedding. For some people, it’s a stretch to even be in the bridal period, but the friend means a lot to them so they do what they can. 

    I think expecting a gift on top of bridal party expenses is just unrealistic for most people!

    Post # 12
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    4 posts
    Wannabee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    To answer your question, you’re not crazy. Judgmental yes, crazy no. It really is not your business to judge other people’s financial decisions. 

    Post # 13
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    3769 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I specifically told my bridal party not to give us gifts. Being in the wedding was cost enough for them. I’m a generous person, and my bridal party was comprised of generous people, and there’s plenty of love to go around.

    We ended up receiving gifts from half of the bridal party. Appreciated, yes, but I don’t feel like they love me any more than the others.

    Post # 14
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    7 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @Blonde17Jess:  I think that whether you are in the WP or not, a gift is always a nice gesture but never a requirement.  In the past I have given a shower gift but not a wedding gift as a bridesmaid.  My decision to give a gift is largely dependent on my current financial situation.  In the case of this wedding, I would probably not have given an additional gift after contributing $80 to the B&G’s wedding expenses.

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