Post # 1
Gifting can be difficult. Am I buying the right thing? Will he/she like it? Sometimes you just don’t know. Sometimes the gift you receive is just NOT what you were hoping for. Sometimes you HATE what you got. But what do you do?
A friend of mine just found out she was getting 2 VERY expensive pairs of shoes from her husband who is deployed. She hates them and hates how expensive they are. She’s going to tell him that while she loves the thought, she really does not care for them and would like him to return them.
I would probably do the same. That’s a lot of money.
One year I bought FI a ukulele. He had expressed a desire for one so I bought it! He ended up exchanging it for a guitar 🙁 I felt terrible, but ultimately I’d rather him have something he really likes.
Have you ever received a gift that you really didn’t like? Did you return it or tell the person that you would rather have something else?
The only person I would be honest with would be FI. Other than that I’d keep the gift and give a gracious thank you!
Post # 3
@Artificial-Sweetener: Ya, it depends… If it was my husband or my side of the family I’d ask to return it no hurt feelings from anyone. But my family kind of anticipates that everyone might not enjoy their gifts and always sends gift receipts along with the present. However DH’s family would be extremely upset if we had asked to return/exchange anything so we just don’t bother and extend our gracious thanks and try and get some use out of it or donate/regift it later on. DH’s brother and sister’s family went in on a ll bean telescope for our wedding gift (despite the fact that we had a registry full of low-moderate priced items we *needed*) and we had never even expressed a desire to anyone that would be up our alley. We graciously accepted & sent a thank you note- took it out for a spin at the beach & saw someone getting fresh in their truck, but that’s about the only use it’s gotten and probably ever will get.
Post # 4
I throw them in the back of the closet and there they remain until spring cleaning!
Post # 5
I’ll exchange clothes that I don’t like, but generally not items. I do it quietly, too – I don’t tell the giver I decided to exchange the gift. If it doesn’t have a receipt, then I’ll donate it, but usually people include gift receipts with clothes in case they don’t fit.
Post # 6
Maybe clothes? I can’t really think of much. I have to say that I 100% have no problem with others exchanging gifts I get them. I would rather them have something they like. SO, on the other hand, absolutely will not exchange gifts and would be very hurt if anyone did that with a gift he got them.
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
I have a few gadgets people have bought me that sit unopened on a shelf under my desk…. A TomTom that I got the same year as my iPhone, a Bluetooth receiver thing that you clip to your visor so you can talk on your phone in the car…. Sorry husband and dad. Last year MIL got me a white faux fur shrug thing (mid-waist length, 3/4 length sleeves, didn’t close in front), the fur was designed to look like hundreds of little rosettes, and was just so awful. I feel mean saying it, but I wear jeans and tshirts every day, with black slacks and a simple plain blouse for work… I could wear it with NOTHING. I put it in a yard sale but no one bought it, so I donated it. I still feel awful… But there was just no way I could wear it.
I don’t think I’ve ever returned anything, except my first Christmas with now-husband he got me a CD that I already had (AND LOVED! Brownie points for the right idea!)
Post # 8
@Artificial-Sweetener: Yes– There are 2 gifts from my parents which come to mind (my DH is wonderful, but doesn’t understand gifts. He got me socks and underwear (not sexy, but athletic) one year. He now gets links and I get no surprises). The first was a great idea, but something expensive that I would never use. My phone had the same function and I would never carry the extra gadget. My parents saw my reaction and asked me if I wanted to to exchange it and I got something slightly less expensive that I use all the time.
The second gift was a shirt I loved, but was way too big. I took it back to Macys and they didn’t have a smaller size, so I could only get a refund. I wasn’t worried until I realized they credited it back to my mom’s account (as in she saw it on her credit card receipt and I ended up without credit to exchange it for). I was so pissed because it made me look ungrateful. After a long talk with Macy’s corporate about how the incident would prevent me from registering at Macy’s, that store has gotten more training. I am still giftless 🙁
Post # 9
I rarely return or exchange. If it’s clothes and there’s no gift receipt, I tend to donate it.
Post # 10
@Artificial-Sweetener: No, but I’m about to. I probably won’t say anything because I *did* like the clock 5 months ago.
Post # 11
DH bought me a camera for hanukkah this year and i exchanged it for a better model.