- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2012
So FH has a big family as do I and we are super close to both sides. He has one brother,Kyle, who has been married for about 2 years to a girl we will call Jessica. Kyle and Jessica also have a one year old son. FH also has two male cousins Tyler and Jacob, and Jacob is engaged as well to a girl named Erin. All of these people including FH and I are all within 5 years of age from each other, grew up in the same town, went to the same schools, and know a lot of the same people. So I guess you could say we are all linked in a lot of ways. So after all that here is my big issue!
Fh sister in-law, Jessica, has been around for a long time, not as long as me but quite a while. She is two years older than I and we know a lot of the same people. Before she had her son and got married we were very close. I spent a lot of one on one time with her and was there for her all the time before baby was born and after. Now that the cousin Jacob is engaged to Erin who has been around less than a year, Jessica and Erin are inseparable! They exclude me from everything, make rude comments to me about my choices with the wedding plans, and basically treat me like crap. Over the Christmas holidays they specifically planned an outing between all the cousins and brothers of our age and their significant others, but called FH and asked if he could leave me at home! It was so hurtful! There have been several other incidents like this as well.
FMIL and I are very close and she says that Jessica is just jealous because I am getting to finish college before I get married and will not be pregnant at my wedding like Jessica was. I hate to think that people that I care about are jealous of me! I am trying to be the bigger person but it is so hard sometimes. I want to reconnect with her and be a part of her son’s life but am not sure how. They live 16 hours away and FH and I will be moving even farther away after the wedding. I want to be close to them before it’s too late!! Help Bees!! What to do??