- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
This girl that I am sort of friends/acquaintances with WILL NOT leave me and my FI alone! It’s gotten to the point where I don’t even know what to do!
I’ll call her J. We met through mutual friends almost a year ago, and while she’s always been annoyingly clingy (inviting herself to everything, texting/IMing constantly, never leaving my side at outings, etc.), she seemed pretty harmless in the beginning. Well, as soon as she met my FI, she was basically all over him too, and it got to the point where she started following HIM around instead of me. She invited herself to FI and his guy friend’s “guy nights,” sat IN-BETWEEN me and FI on several occasions, tried to fanagle him into buying her drinks, and wouldn’t leave his side the whole night (even when I did!) We went on a trip with her and a bunch of other friends to Vegas this year, and it got even worse–there was even a time where FI wanted to go off on his own to play blackjack for a few hours, and she invited herself with him alone (this was despite the fact that I invited her to hang out with me and the rest of the girls). He eventually stopped talking to her, and was extremely rude to her when she did, to try and snap her out of the weird “puppy love” thing.
Fast-forward about 3 months, she’s still inviting herself to everything, but I thought the flirting had stopped. However, last night, a friend told me that people had been commenting on how she inappropriate she was acting with my FI once I was out of sight. At some point, she left my FI to go flirt with a guy at the bar. I don’t know what all happened in between, but FI basically made a funny/mean comment about the guy she’d been talking to and she PUNCHED HIM IN THE FACE. Completely without warning. She never even apologized, but blamed it on the alcohol (she wasn’t drunk, by the way…)
Oh, and did I mention, she has been treating me like total crap at hangouts lately–talks to me like a dog, orders me to scoot over (no matter how little room there is on the sofa), has physically shoved me to sit next to me, and yet still desperately clings onto me to talk to me during parties? Weirdly, though, she is SUPER nice to me during the week (we go to school together), and she literally tracks me down on Wednesdays and Thursdays to find out what my weekend plans are.
What the heck is going on?? This girl is invited to our wedding, but we are so sick of her insane behavior that I am ready to revoke the invitation! Bear in mind, I don’t even like her as a person–she is negative, moody, and unpleasant to be around in general. Is her behavior insecurity? Desperation? Hostility toward me? Fueled by love? If anybody has any clue how I should handle this situation, please let me know!