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So I was flying from my weekend trip to see FI (which was amazing!) and sat next to a girl that I noticed was wearing an engagement ring AND looking through Brides magazine. I am not usually one to strike up conversations on airplanes but since we were only about .2 inches from each other, I figured why not? I asked, "Are you getting married?" She said sort of dismissively, "Oh, yeah, in like a year and a half." I responded, "Oh, I just noticed your magazine. I'm getting married next summer." She said, "Yeah, just started the subscriptions now, might as well," again with this like neutral tone of voice. I responded, "Oh, I don't subscribe, I actually read a lot of wedding blogs," and she didn't really say anything back. It was clear she wasn't interested in striking up a conversation about Weddingbee and the like, so I semi-awkwardly said, "Well, congratulations! It's exciting, isn't it?" She gave me like this half smile and said, "You too."
I guess some people just hate talking on planes... but I thought it was so weird that A) she didn't seem excited about her wedding at all and B) she didn't want to talk about it! I obviously love talking about my wedding planning and my great fiance, and I never thought anyone would act so... blase about it!
I agree, that is weird. It would have been a dream come true if I had been traveling and the girl sitting next to me noticed my e-ring and that I was reading Brides and then went out of her way to ask me how my planning was going. Double bonus that you brought up wedding blogs... we would've talked the whole way...
haha i would have talked to you the entire flight about weddings and im not even engaged yet hahahaahaha
I know, right?! Thank you! I just felt like - even if you aren't huge about wedding planning, I would expect some sort of excitement in relation to being asked about your engagement! When people ask me about it, I can't stop smiling! It seemed like she wasn't happy about it, which was bizarre to me. Or maybe there was something in my teeth?
haha. I fly a lot & as terrible as this is going to sound: I hate talking to women during flights. I'll talk to a man or a kid, but women just don't know when to stop talking. Once a woman talked to me for 4 hours about her lipo she got in Mexico. I mean every last detail.
Also, as hard as it is for us in the hive to believe (I'm obsessed!!)- not every woman is wired for wedding planning. I can name a handful of brides I know that hated every second of the wedding planning process!
It was strange, but I can kind of see her possible POV :)
Even if you are excited about wedding planning, you might not necessarily want to talk about your wedding with complete strangers. I'd be really uncomfortable in the girl's position because while I'm more open online, I'm extremely shy in real life and am terrified of people I don't know talking to me >_< And with regards to not seeming excited about being engaged....I'm sure people who have interesting engagement stories are more excited about talking about it. But in my case, I hate talking about it because people always seem to be expecting some great story and we don't have one at all...we just decided together to get engaged and got a ring. Whenever I say that(or how we met, equally boring story) people give me this really disappointed look that I don't have a more exciting story and it's just increadibly awkward and makes me dread anyone asking about it.
Yeah, I'm one of those people who hopes and prays that whoever sits next to me won't try to chat me up... I've even considered pretending I don't speak english, hehe, although never gotten that far. (I sometimes do that on the bus... speak french when people bug me...)
A lot of couples really struggle though engagement, and it sounds like hers will be a long-ish one; could be there's a back story that she didn't really want to get into (like a recent fight with the FI, or she had to twist his arm to get engaged, or he was just shipped out overseas, etc). I mean, there's any number of things that could be going on (heck, her grandma might have died and she was on the way to the funeral, wedding mags there only as a way to keep from crying on the plane) - often even chatting will end up bringing up painful things, if they're in the forefront of your mind already - could be she had bigger things than the wedding going on.
She may have just not wanted to talk on the plane. I know that's generally me.
Not matter what the conversation, once you begin one, you're kind of bound to keep it going throughout the trip; perhaps she just wanted a bit of peace and relaxation.
I can see myself doing the exact same thing. Making comment enough in reply to be polite, but nothing to encourage further note.
Wow, that is pretty weird! Well, I guess everyone is just different. Maybe she deals with her excitement in a different way or something? lol I mean, you said that she was reading through a wedding magazine, so that makes me believe that maybe she is excited? Like everyone else said, she probably isn't much of a talker or something. However, I was on a plane coming home from Hawaii (which is where my future hubby proposed to me) and there was this lady next to me. She kept staring at me and smiling and then finally asked me "are you two on your honeymoon?" and I replied "No, we just got engaged!!" and we were talking for a while. I was so excited that she asked that, especially since everyone and their neighbor already knew I was engaged before I had the opportunity to tell anyone. My mom just had to open her mouth! lol So it was nice to actually tell SOMEONE about the engagement! hahah:)
I don't know, I wouldn't have been up for a conversation on a plane about my wedding :) I just dislike in general when people try to talk to me in a setting like that, but I'm not really the kind of person who wants to chat about wedding planning. It's something I'm not doing for myself (I'd rather elop!) so it's not a topic that really thrills me.
I read wedding magazines on planes just hoping someone will chat me up about weddings! Oh well. It seems there are 2 types of plane people--those taht don;t mind talking to strangers and those that hate it.
Lol, I would have been your best friend by the end of that flight!!! I have a friend who is engaged and looks at mags and stuff, but can't figure out how to afford the wedding, and therefore, won't talk about it at all. She never wanted to hear about mine, and talk about planning hers.
Talking to people on planes usually lends itself to interesting conversations, however, most of the time I just want to sleep. Sometimes it makes me a little sad to know I won't get to sleep once someone starts talking to me.
Yeah i would have talked to you the whole flight, but thats me, i love weddings, children,anything girlie but we are not all like that, and maybe she did have a very good reason for not wanting to talk about it. A friend of mine got engaged before me and although all seemed ok just a few months from the wedding she called it off, she said afterwards that even booking the venue or getting her dress felt awful thats when she realised she didnt want to marry the guy. I think she saw how me and other friends couldn't stop talking weddings, etc so maybe that girl was having her own doubts. As someone recently told me you can never know whats going on behind a smile.
I don't appreciate random people talking to me on an airplane. I don't know you, I don't care if we have anything in common, and I doubt I'd want to talk about my wedding with you, a complete stranger. Don't take it personally; some of us don't like to use plane time as random chatty stranger time.
Even when I was engaged, I'd just smile and nod. I don't like random people just striking up a conversation with me. Maybe the girl just wanted to enjoy her down time on the plane and read her magazine in peace? I don't know how that kind of behavior is strange or bizarre. I hate when random people get SUPER chatty on a plane and disrupt the quiet! I bring earplugs for this reason. People leave me alone and that's how i want it.
I am excited about my wedding but I don't get really excited talking about it. Since we are getting close, people ask me about it all the time, and I am starting to feel like this robot, because I have discussed it so many times ("yep, we're getting there, no we haven't totally figured out the flowers yet, no, we don't have 'colors,' yes, we did hire the Dj..." blah blah blah).
Also, I don't want to talk to people on planes.
When I travel, I normally take 2-3 doses of dramamine (I get the motion-sickness real bad) and pop in some ear plugs, and read/sleep. I honestly wouldn't take it as her not being excited about her wedding, or her being rude.... maybe she does the same thing I do?
Luckily you have this fab beehive and lots of other soon-to-be-engaged, engaged, or already married peeps who can share in ALL the excitement!!!!! :)
Maybe she was a nervous flyer. I'm giving the benefit of the doubt. It's possible that she was trying to tune out the flight by reading the wedding mag, and by having a conversation she has to be more aware of flying.
Weird? NO! Honestly, I hate flying, cant stand it and try to do all I can to keep myself from vomiting and random chit chatting does not help. I am also extremely shy and do not just talk to random strangers. I only talked to a person once on a flight and that is because we had such horrible turbulence that our plane was jumping up and down, bags were coming out from the top and I accidently hit the guy next to me. So he was doing his best to calm me down. But I also remember a flight, that was only 90 minutes long, where this lady kept talking about ovarian cancer, her cycles and how she basically did not care if she lived, losing her hair ment so much to her that she die anyway. Seriously? I wanted to punch her!
This doesn't seem strange to me. It might be the cynical New Yorker in me, but I do not really like talking to random people in public. I like to spend my flight vegging out and watching a movie or listening to music. I also often take Dramamine for motion sickness and just want to close my eyes and be left alone.
Maybe she only recently got engaged and this was her first wedding magazine - the first glimpse at the Wedding Machine was certainly intimidating enough to scare me and make me want to forget about weddings for a while! lol...
You never know what her day had been like prior to getting on the plane. She might have had a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day and just didn't want to talk.
I will politely chat for a minute or two when I fly, but generally I want to relax and read or sleep, not talk to strangers.
I'll be on planes all next week and the week after, you should come along! I'd love to talk wedding planning :)
On another note, I know that a lot of brides go through the "yea I'm engaged... but we won't be married for years" who cares stage. Her wedding is so far away that it seems more like climbing Mt Kilimanjaro than celebrating the happiest day of her life.
Sorry that she bummed you, at least you got some great time with the FI!
I also agree it must have been the plane thing...I know I have had my share of random plane conversations and I don't mind them usually, but sometimes you just want to relax and veg on the plane. =)
Unfortunately, I do not find it weird. Some people just don't like talking to other people. Period.
I on the other hand would have been chatting it up with you especially if I knew about WB. I find plane trips extremely boring and uncomfy so actually chatting it up about something I am passionate about would be great. I would definitely not want to be chatting about something random like another person's lipo though (that's really does suck RecessionistaBride).
Sorry you didn't have a new buddy!
My guess is that maybe she's someone who gets nervous when they fly? I have a friend like that and you can't really have a conversation with her at all about (about anything) because she's so anxious and distracted on the plane.
hmm, not so much as "strange", but I would say she just might not have been in the mood to chat. Personally, it all depends on my mood that day. If it were for a work trip (I used to have to fly ALLLL over the country at my last job & hated it!!) I would probably be in a real sour mood & not want to talk to anyone about anything. But if I were in your shoes and going for a fun reason, I'd probably want to talk the whole way there!
I'm like that every day though, with people at the gym or on the train - some days if someone starts a conversaion i'm chatty, but other days I might bite someone's head off if they tried talking to me - it also depends on what time of the month it is - LOL!!
Haha, seems like there are a lot of you that would have blown me off too! :) I guess part of it is, none of my friends are engaged, and this was honestly the first time I'd met a person in real life that's getting married, as lame as that sounds! So I really just got excited to talk weddings. I usually sleep rather than talk on planes too, so I understand not wanting to be bothered, but wedding planning is an exception in my book!
I don't think she's a real woman. What WOMAN doesn't want to talk weddings, whether they are engaged or not, they will talk weddings!
LOL personally I would of been very nonchalant as well, even though I am SUPER excited about my wedding. I think its a personality thing, and although I am super outgoing, for some reason on a plane I love my alone/quiet time ;)
I will talk to a WALL!! I would have been sooo excited to chat it up and we would have been exchanging numbers so we could K.I.T. when we got off the plane (but that is me) I am extremely friendly to a fault I would say sometimes. And I generally think that everyone is good and kind natured. It's so funny because when I bought my eyeglasses I had them put a slight rosy tint so that I could always see the world through rose colored glasses :D... but that's just me :D
I actually like talking to people on planes (if they're not weird and scary :-p)...though I won't start conversations. I also love love love weddings and wedding planning. But I didn't like talking about MY wedding or wedding planning (I totally loved it and was excited about planning it, it was completely awesome, I just didn't like talking to people about it) and would have shut you down pretty quick on that too. I might have started talking to you about yours though. :)
I'm also one of those people that hate to talk to others on planes. I don't care honestly if you were my long lost twin.
It's also hard to talk weddings to peers that you don't know (same aged people). Budgets and everything can be very awkward. It a personal thing.
some people are just really anti social and hate for people to be in there bubble. I for one would love someone to talk weddings to all my friends are single, or married already.
I'm super quiet on planes. Super super quiet. (Me?! Quiet?!) I'm just really really shy around new people. I'm also always convinced people thing I'm a mythical woodland beast. :p
I might have had a hard time not yapping about my wedding though, if the other person showed interest.
She might not have felt well or something. Don't feel sads. :p
i guess it's the "city girl" in me, but i don't want to enjoy talking to strangers that i know i'll never see again, like people in passing, such as on an airplane, or the metro, or a grocery store. you won't see me smiling at strangers on the street, either lol. but i'm friendly i swear! very social and a party girl! some people just keep to themselves more.
I'm that girl. I don't want to talk to other people about their weddings. I don't want to talk to other people about my own wedding. I've been in enough wedding-related conversations to know that they are generally really, REALLY boring.
I just feel like you never know what's going on with people. Being engaged doesn't mean you're permanently happy all the time, and that is not odd. Maybe she & her FH had a fight. Maybe he's far away in the military. Maybe they don't have enough money for the wedding. Maybe a recent death in the family. Who knows!
It would depend on my mood I think. Most days I would love to chat with a woman who was also engaged but I know that when I fly I often want to zone out and relax (because how often do you get a few hours to sleep, listen to an ipod, read, and be alone? not many for me!)
I feel like the odd part is that she is another engaged women and atleast would have liked to chit chat for a few minutes! I do feel odd sometimes when people at work, friends, etc ask because I don't want to bore anyone and it is hard to know when to stop...I don't want to scare anybody with my enthusiasm for my centerpieces ;) Thank goodness we have WB!!!!
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