Girl ring bearer? Would she wear the same dress as flower girl?

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

If you’re worried about family reactions, I would talk to them first.  That way they can address their feelings and not be surprised on the big day.  It would probably help if they were a little different, so not wearing the exact same dress.  Obviously the ring bearer would carry a pillow and the flower girl a basket of petals.  But I think it’d be nice if their dresses were different too.  Similar in style and and the same color but not the exact same dress is what I’d shoot for.  I’d also probably have them walk in separately.  Then there’s no issue of one girl trying to steal the limelight from the other (or however you’re worried the family might interpret it).

Post # 3
1249 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I know when I was 5 I LOVED to dress like my sisters and friends. I’m sure, had I been in the situation, I would have felt odd if I wasn’t wearing the same dress as the flower girl.

The good thing about weddings these days is there are no hard rules. As long as all parties involved agree, then there is no issue. 🙂

Post # 4
3256 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

You could also just have 2 flower girls and no ring bearers. We had 2 ring bearers (boys) and no flower girls since it just kinda worked out that way! It was great!

Post # 5
2251 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I say do whatever you think would make them most comfortable. We had a 5 yr old flower girl and an 8 yr old flower girl and did different dresses for each of them, since their ages were so different. The 8 yr olds was much less cutesy than the 5 year olds (not that an 8 year old couldn’t wear a cutesy dress..we were just rolling with these little girls’ tastes)

Also, I scored the dresses for $25 each at Burlington Coat Factory (a totally random find but they had a great selection). They were both all white, just slightly different styles. Paired them with cheap, cute little red sparkly flats from target. Total cost for both girls was around $75.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 1 month ago by  HeyJude72.
Post # 6
544 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I think having a ring bearer as a little girl would be cute! I can see the dresses either way but my worry would be that if you had them wear two different dresses would one little girl like the other’s dress better and cause problems ( or problems with picky parents, potentially?). Having both wear the same dress might make things sImpler. 

Post # 7
10906 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

You could have two flower girls and no ring bearer (instead giving the rings to the best man and/or maid or matron of honor), OR you could have BOTH girls carry flowers AND one of the rings each.  

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