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Uh...drag her along and try to turn her? :P
I know a lot of women in their early 60's who are really into pampering, so I think this is more just your FMIL...
Would she enjoy a nice dinner out, maybe? And does she expect to be invited to your "girls' night"?
are you combining a shower and a bachelorette party? You get gifts at a shower (for your home) and you go out and do stuff with your girls for the bachelorette. But, you should do it the way YOU want it. You are concerned about your FMIL. I'd say if she wants to throw you a shower, fine. But I wouldn't expect a FMIL to be invited to your bachelorette party/thing. Although, I'm inviting my former mother in law to my bachelorette party.....but we've known each other for 20+ years and I'm the mother of her only grandchild.
Oh, no no no, sorry, didn't mean to imply that all women in their 60's don't care for that stuff---it's just her.
It's not a girls night out---it would be to replace the bridal shower I don't want. Don't you typically invite your FMIL to your bridal shower? I'm not having a bachelorette party because the whole alcohol/bar/veil/peenie straws thing just isn't me.
I gotcha. I won't have a night with booze and phallic stuff either. Well, you know what? Officially, YOU don't invite anyone to your shower. It is another female relative that does that. So, it's not even your responsibility. And, since this is a girlfriends thing (and your FMIL would be huffing and scoffing all the way, by the sounds of it), I don't think you would be doing anyone any favors by inviting her. Is YOUR mom going to your bachelorette day? Either way, it may feel best to find an activity you know your FMIL would love (high tea, dinner and a movie?). Good luck!
HAHA Oh boy, no I'm not inviting someone, but my sister wanted to know who I'd invite to this "non-bridal shower" party. She would need to know addresses and stuff. My FMIL wouldn't be huffing and scoffing about the pedicure, I just wanted to do something so she would enjoy it too---ya know, because from what I understand the FMIL goes to the bridal shower kind of party. Of course not the bachelorette party--that I'm not having so no, my mom isn't going either.
I feel like I'm repeating myself.
Sounds like a great day. I would make the invitation for pedicures at X, followed by lunch at Y. That way the people who want to come to both can and the people who just want to come for lunch can do that too. Odds are it's not just your FMIL who won't be able to come for a pedicure so I think an invite that makes it clear she would still be welcome without the pedicure would be a nice compromise.
I think she can pull up a chair and sit and watch while you guys get the pedis. No big deal. My FMIL is kind of the same and surprisingly actually she really liked the free facials we did at the clinique counter.
Who would be paying for this day out? Are all the guests paying their own way?
Probably, I don't know. It's up to my sister and Mom. I don't think they can afford to take everyone out to eat and the pedicures. It would be six of us total. Since it's not a typical party of cake, punch and games and instead of just girls getting together to go out and celebrate I'm getting married it'll be a little different.
i would say invite her - if she doesn't want to come, then at least you considered her?
when my aunt got married everyone went and got manicures for the wedding and i had to drag my mom to come because she 'doesn't do that'... she's now hooked :P
I think if you include your mom then include the FMIL. Just make it clear on the invites that it is a spa day and lunch. If she wants to come she can and it doesn't mean she has to get a pedi. She can sit in the chairs and catch up on the chatter. She probably would be hurt she didn't even get an invite.
I had never had a pedicure before, and had only gotten my nails done for prom and HS graduation. My aunts and my mother had never had either, but they thought it would be fun to do at least ONCE. ASK you FMIL if she'd like to join you...she may surprise you and decide to give it a try. My mom liked her nails so much she kept them up for about eight months after the wedding before finally having them removed. And if your FMIL doesn't care to join you, I agree that you should have the day's events at certain times so she can join you later in the day, (and so other people who can't make it to all can still make it to some of your day).
Ditto on what others said. Even though FMIL is not into those types of things, this is a different occasion. Send her the invite and let her make the decision if she wants to attend of not. She may opt to join for some or all - and, if you speak to her and she voices concern, tell her you'd love for her to be there with everyone, but you understand x, y, or z. The point is to include her and make her feel part of the girls day... regardless if the activity is one she really likes.
i would invite her, at least she would probably want to join you for lunch, if not the whole event.
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So I'm not big on the typical bridal shower, and I've covered that, so my sister has asked me what I would like to do instead. I'd really love to go for pedicures and lunch somewhere fun....but, then I realized my FMIL doesn't do pedicures. I love her to death, very sweet woman, but she is just not into the pampering stuff. Normally this would be fine, got to say it does save money(!), but in this case I don't know what to do.
My mom is 49, my FI's mom is in her early 60's. Her generation, at least for her, you don't spend money on things that you don't need to. You don't buy something new unless the old one is broke and unrepairable. She has never cut her hair, she doesn't dye it, she doesn't get her nails done (ever) or go for pedicures, doesn't wear makeup, doesn't go shopping for clothes unless she has to, carries the same purse for like 20 years and really none of that stuff interests her. What am I going to do? I would love for her to come but she isn't into that stuff???? I feel a little stuck.