(Closed) Girls Night with my Drinky Friends

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I had a girls night at 6 weeks too. I said I didn’t feel well and had a headache but I didn’t want to miss seeing everyone. After my best friend called me out.  I wasn’t ready to tell yet, but I knew even if I lost the baby I would have told her as she has been part of my support system since we were kids. When I finally did tell my other girlfriend most of the replies with “I knew it”.

Post # 4
7296 posts
Busy Beekeeper

i wonder if you can pull off ordering an alcoholic drink, then sneak off to the bathroom before the drinks come and tell your waiter you changed your mind?    other than that, i would just say stick to the limiting calories or antibiotics excuse. The antibiotics is a really good one that they can’t really insist you have a drink anyway. It would suck for you to have to skip out on the whole evening altogether because of this.

Post # 5
1512 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Maybe make plans to go, but then the day of, tell them you’re not feeling like your usual self [not a lie- you feel like your pregnant self] and don’t feel up to having a drink. Maybe just something along those lines?

As far as someone calling me out, no, I never had that happen. I started telling everyone as soon as I got the BFP. I had to tell my parents because I was still living with them, so they needed to know why I was throwing up and no smoking. I old friends right away because I wanted a support system in case I lost the baby.

Post # 6
180 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’d say skip it. Having to cover it up is often more work than its worth. And In My Humble Opinion, having people call you out on it is just plain annoying. If you have another night out next month you’ll be 10 weeks and maybe more comfortable sharing the news then.

Post # 7
6826 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Personally I just wouldn’t go, why lie to people who are supposed to be your friends? 

Post # 8
279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@bluewolverine:  My girlfriends all know we plan on actively ttc this summer (next month specifically!  woot!).  I actually went out for drinks a couple months ago and didn’t order any bc it was the two weeks between O and Period.  When they asked what gives I explained that ever since our wedding we stopped using condoms and have been totally successful avoiding pregnancy but *just incase* I mis-calculated safe days I stopped drinking during those 2 weeks to play it safe.

Could you try that approach?  If they know you’re TTC you can play the just incase card without admitting to the pregnancy.

Post # 9
1562 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@AutumnMrs:  I like this.. this could work!

Post # 10
95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Here’s a couple of things i tried

-order a drink that looks alcholic i.e. selzer and cranberry. Have a secret word with the bartender at some point.

– OR if they know you are TTC they’ll prob want an update right? what i did on one occasion is kind of lament about it, “no still no pregnant but we are in the TWW”, and then say that you spoke to your doctor and they advised to not drink for one cycle to let the egg “implant” – which i have read somewhere as being true. Just say you are giving this cycle your best shot and not going to drink to see how it goes. Hopefully they will understand.

– another option (yes i am in the situation frequently!) is actually do order a drink and pretend to sip it. I ordered white wine once and when no-one was looking went to the restroom and threw  it out and filled it back up with water. In a dark bar no-one could tell the difference!

Post # 11
71 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

@AutumnMrs:  I had a friend do this. She told us that she wasn’t drinking all weekend on our girls trip to the beach for a long weekend. I know myself and another girls suspected but we didn’t say anything to her about it. She hung out all weekend at the beach, we had a Dirty Delete. Then about 3 weeks later she called to say she was pregnant.

Post # 13
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I had a girls night the same day I took the stick test.  I told them I wasn’t drinking as much because I had elevated liver levels, which was true and something I had talked to them about before.  So I really didn’t want to drink because of both reasons.

I ordered a glass of wine because that is something that you “sip” on.  And I did just that. I sipped on that same glass of wine all night!  I would put it to my lips and somewhat drink it but let it fall back into the glass.  They never even noticed or picked-up on it.  Not a single one.  The other thing I did (at another bar) was ordered the same type wine as my sister-in-law.  And I traded glasses with her at one point.  We both sat them down on the table to take photos and I picked up her half-empty glass and walked off.  I thought for sure she’d catch on.  But as the night went on they got tipsy and didn’t notice! LOL

Post # 15
1993 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@bluewolverine:  Glad you had fun and got away with it!  I pm’d you a question!

Post # 16
669 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Hmmm…if I was you, I probably just wouldn’t go.  I think you should definitely tell your mom before any of your girlfriends (however, I’m sure your mom would understand, too, if it got to someone else’s ears before hers).  You’ll have other opportunities to see your friends (movie or shopping).  Good luck!

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