girls unrealistically expecting HUGE engagement rings?!

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
1429 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

I wouldn’t want to be engaged to one of those girls.  

I have no idea why people are like that.  Entitlement is all I can think of.  That, and no concept of how much those rings actually cost.

Post # 4
1296 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would imagine they have no understanding of what actual diamonds cost. 


Post # 6
596 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

A small part of me was selfishly – yet secretly – hoping I would get a really huge knocker, at least 1.5 – 2 carats. FI could afford it, but he isn’t over the top. However when he presented me with my .58 solitare, I was genuinely happy. I know he took a very long time looking at and researching rings so he set a budget to get a smaller diamond of the highest quality. I am very happy with it.

So IMO looking back, I do agree with you. If you can afford it by all means GO FOR IT. If not, trade up later when you can do so!

Post # 7
2451 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@BeeinBoston:  +1. It’s one thing when your SO is well off financially and you both discuss that you want something bigger. It’s quite another when you’re broke/in debt and you’re forcing the poor guy to drop A LOT of money. I feel bad for the guys in this situation.

Post # 9
1420 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@brooklyn_bee:  I know what you mean. A girl I know, I heard that she told her boyfriend that the ring has to be at least 2 carats, in addition to an ultimatum regarding the deadline to propose. Well guess what, the deadline passed with no proposal and no 2 carat ring. She’s still waiting….

Post # 11
11844 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@brooklyn_bee:  sure, a 2-3ct ring would be fantastic, although I’ve tried them on and feel completely ridiculous wearing them.  I’m perfectly content with my 0.5ct centre 0.8 total weight and love it. 

Post # 13
270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@brooklyn_bee:  I’ve never understood going above one’s means for an e-ring either, but I chalk it up to 2 things: (1) NYC is crazy place — the standard of what is “normal” here is severely skewed. (2) Girls that place such importance on the size of an e-ring feel that the size of their ring directly correlates to how much their FI loves them and need to have a visual validation of how great their relationship is. 


Post # 14
596 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014


Yeah no Sh!t. Those sweet little child brides have a very long way to go in life.   

Post # 15
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Would I refuse a 2ct? Absolutely not. Do I EXPECT a 2 ct? ABSOLULTEY NOT. It’s the meaning behind it all that’s what matters.. :/

Post # 16
2612 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

I feel like it’s partially a regional thing. I live in the midwest and personally don’t know anyone with a ring over 1 carat. Most are not over 0.5 carat for the center stone.

However, FBIL lives in NYC and told us he wishes he could “get away with proposing with a ring that size”…he felt very pressured to live up to what he felt is expected of him. His FI got a ~1-1.5 carat center stone with a halo, diamond band, in platinum. I think his FI chipped in on the ring to get what she wanted, which is fine! That’s their choice. But I definitely get the feeling from FBIL that he hates the expectations out there and how expensive everything for their wedding is as well. I think he’s getting a little sick of living there in general though, so he’s a bit biased against NYC at this point. I really mean no offense to anyone – this is just his POV that he told me and FI.

There have been some similar posts around the Bee about regional ring carat size etc. I think that’s where a lot of people get their expectations. It’s what they’re seeing and hearing in their region.

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