Post # 1
We are hainvg a semi-destination wedding. We’ll be having a Welcome Party on Friday night, including dinner. The ceremony and reception will run from 4:30pm – 11:30pm on Saturday. I am torn between doing a day-after brunch and just letting people do their own thing. I know they don’t have to come, but some people might feel obligated to come. There’s so many great things to do in Sedona: hiking, jeep tours, etc. I don’t want people that traveled to miss out on that stuff, but I also don’t want to have a super early breakfast, ’cause we’ll still be in bed;-) What do you think?
Post # 3
I think a day after brunch is a great idea and you could make it informal and optional for your guests. However since you’ll be tried from the night before it doesnt have to be super early and if you know your guests already have plans maybe you dont need to do it at all.
Post # 4
Just casually mention that there’s a brunch if they want to swing by. We had one to open gifts up with our families and bridal party and it was fun but I wouldn’t have wanted to do that in front of a group of people.
Post # 5
I think it’s a nice idea unless people are leaving in the am (flying or driving out) but I am probably going to do one for my guests as we’re having an intimate wedding. Keep it just wedding party and immediate families.
I personally couldn’t see feeding the whole guest list if it were a large wedding on yet another day! If I had a larger wedding party, I’d consider an all inclusive resort and then arrange to have everybody meet for brunch and reserve a private table.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
I think if you’re budget allows for it, it’s a really nice option to prove for your guests…This way you’ll have one more opportunity to spend time w/ anyone who you might have missed during the craziness of the wedding, plus people really do appreciate free food 🙂 No one will feel obligated and some might opt out but I think the majority will enjoy getting to spend more time with you and your (now) husband!
Post # 7
I kind of dislike day-after brunches in general. We’re not doing one because I want to STAY IN BED! 🙂 If we know the couple (and other guests) super well, then it’s fun to spend more time with everybody, but normally, I just sit there, watching people open presents, wishing I was sleeping. But you could always have one and just casually mention it so that nobody feels obligated to go.
Post # 8
you could also tell people something like:
“anyone who is free on sunday is invited to come to our day-after brunch. we’ve scheduled it a bit early” — like, 9 or 9:30? or 10? — “to give people the rest of the day to explore the area.”
Post # 9
It’s a very small wedding. We invited 49, but only expect at most 36, so we will definitley have time with everyone at the wedding itself and it would be easy to invite everyone to the brunch, so those issues don’t apply for us.
Post # 10
I say let them do their own thing so you can enjoy your morning with your husband!!
You’re having a small wedding & you’ll have 5 hours the day before spending time with every single guest! I don’t think they’d even miss the morning after brunch 🙂
Post # 11
Let people do their own thing and enjoy the day with your husband. Everyone I know that has done the post wedding brunch has regretted it. They tell me they were so emotionally and physically exhausted after the wedding and reception (and all the stress leading up to it) that they just wanted to relax after the wedding and the brunch ended up being one more thing on the to do list.
Post # 12
This might be weird but could you just not say anything and see how it goes, if you feel up to it than that night just say o we’ll be eating breakfast around… if you wanna stop by this restaurant than feel free to meet us there.
Post # 13
we’re doing a day after brunch because i want to hang out w/ everyone more! everyone will be invited, but i know not everyone will show up. we have a house to prepare brunch at though, so it makes it a lot easier to make pancakes and have mimosas. it’s definitely going to be a later brunch though! no waking up early for us!
Post # 14
we had one and really liked being able to see everyone after the wedding. It was a really nice way to end the weekend!
Post # 15
I kind of really don’t want to do one but my Mom is insisting we do it. I want to stay in bed and relax and not deal with anything wedding-related. I’m sure I;ll have had QUITE enough of my family by that point, too.
Post # 16
I agree with texasmeredith…let people do their own thing. We had a small destination wedding in Bend, OR (about 85 people) with a Welcome Party on Friday, wedding on Saturday, etc… and definitely didn’t feel the need to host a day after brunch. We had brunch with some family and ended up running into a ton of our guests there (we had the reception at a resort where 99% of the guests stayed). People also had early flights out, etc… so it was nice to give people a day to do what they wanted…hike, golf, fish, etc… I will be honest…I was exhausted the day after the wedding (and a couple of days after even) so don’t over plan. With a guest list that size you will have plenty of time to mingle all weekend…trust me…we did and it was so much fun!! By hosting a Welcome Party on Friday there definitely isn’t an expectation on your guests behalf to have another event hosted for them on Sunday. Sleep in, relax, see a few people but don’t make it anything formal. We’ve skipped most hosted day after brunches because we want to check out the city/town we are visiting and I am sure your guests will too!