Post # 1
My FI is his college friend’s best man. His fiance, who I am not close to, invited me to her bridal shower. I can not attend because I have prior plans. My FI’s friend and the bride is giving him grief for me not going. To make my FI’s life easier he asked me to go to the shower. I don’t think I have to cancel my plans especially since I’m not close to the bride. I think my fiance’s friends should be more understanding and can’t expect everyone to attend the shower. Do you think I should go to this shower just because my FI asked me to?
Post # 3
If you can’t attend, you can’t attend and you mark no on the rsvp. No one has the right to be so rude as to guilt trip you for not attending. If the bride is not willing to understand this and demands anyway, then she has issues to get over and your FH should not be harassed either.
Post # 4
The bride and I don’t have mutual friends and she never tried being my friend for the 5 1/2 years I’ve known her. Why does she now care if I come to her bridal shower? I am going to send her a gift since I can’t attend. It is unfortunate because this whole fiasco stressed out my FI and made us have a small disagreement. We are fine now.
Post # 5
The gift is a nice gesture i would take it as she wanted to come but couldn’t however she did go out of her way and time to get me sometime.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t attend – nor do I understand how your attending will make your FI’s life easier.
Post # 7
Jeez, I had close friends who couldn’t attend my shower, and I was fine with it! People have lives.
Post # 8
One of J’s best friends has been with his gf for almost five years. We don’t really have any mutual friends, but I asked my MOH to invite her to my bachelorette – and I was super excited when she said she would come!
I guess it’s not so much that I felt like she needed to, I was just hoping she would want to. Afterall, J is really close with her bf, and I consider her a “pre-friend”, if that makes sense. I’m excited to get to know her better!
That said, we don’t live in the same city that they do, so I haven’t had opportunities to hang out with her apart from a few group dates over the years, so the situation is a little different. BUT don’t totally discredit her – she probably just wants to get to know you better!
Post # 9
Send a gift and go on about your business. Don’t go, and don’t feel badly about not going.
An invitation is not an obligation or contract. People suck all the fun out of celebrations with petty expectations. If someone is invited to something and she is free and wants to go, she should go. If she is not free/does not want to go, she should not.
I’d opine differently if this was your sister, but since she isn’t, don’t feel badly!