Post # 1
Is it as awful as it seems on TV? It makes my skin crawl to see women in labor on TV screaming bloody murder. Are they overreacting? Give it to me straight.
And please spare the “it’s so worth it” talk. I’m sure it is but I want real talk about labor and delivery. I’m very matter-of-fact and want to know the real truth.
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
You should check out Mrs. Dumpling’s new blog – http://www.everybodybirths.com. It’s got a ton of (very honest) labor stories! 🙂
Post # 4
Actually, I didn’t think it was as bad as I was led to believe. And I gave birth back when natural births (e.g. no pain meds) was all the rage. Transition (going from 8 10 10 cm) was hard, but lasted only 2 hrs. What really surprised me was how crappy I felt afterwards “down there”. Luckily that issue resolved fairly quickly. Stay active during the pregnancy, walk a lot, it helps to prepare the body. Giving birth is hard work!
Post # 5
I’m not due until 8/30, but the lamaze instructor says that screaming is a sign you’ve lost control (as in, you might need to take the epidural if you haven’t…concentrate on your breathing, etc.). I don’t think screaming is common but makes good TV!
Post # 6
All I can say is, if they offer you an epideral, take it. I had my first child natural with no drugs and it was really painful. I didn’t remember the pain after, but during, oh my. My second child was also natural, but he came so fast, there wasn’t time for anything. For my third child, I had an epideral and I was able to sleep through most of the contractions and all I had to do was push when the time came. I was awake and alert when I needed to be. If I would have had an epideral with my first one, I probably would have had more kids.
Post # 7
Make sure you let the nurses/doctor know to tell before it is too late to have medication. They will not let you have anything after a certain point.
Post # 8
Thanks for your honesty. I am not pregnant yet but I am the type of person that likes to know what they are getting into.
Post # 9
@noritake22: That’s funny that you say if you’d had an epidural with your first child, you might have had more kids. I had one with an epidural, one with nothing, ane one c-section. After the last one, I said, I wish I could have had all of them by c-section. Sooooo much easier. I really didn’t mind the post-op healing…it wasn’t that bad.
As for the two non-c-section deliveries, I highly recommend the epidural. I was sure I didn’t want one, but when the anesthesiologist said “it’s now or never,” I kind of panicked and got one. I was so glad I did. After that point, I watched the contractions on the screen and was amused by thinking “Wow, I bet that one really hurt.”
I really didn’t think the contractions were all that bad….only at the very end does it seem that you have no time between them. I found walking and sitting in a rocking chair helped. They were painful at times, but bearable.
Pushing? That is where I kind of lost it. If you manage to push the baby out in a few pushes, it’s all good. I spent two hours pushing with both of mine and towards the end was asking the doctor to just cut the baby out. That to me was by far the hardest, most painful part. I did cry with my second child (no epidural), but I never screamed. I think that’s a made for tv kind of thing.
Post # 10
I gave birth last month without pain meds. It really isn’t all that bad, but I also had a homebirth so it was pretty easy to relax. I think if I had been at the hospital I would have been a lot more stressed out. As long as you keep moving the contractions are manageable. Pushing hurt, but it also didn’t last very long. Honestly, I did scream at the very end- the last two pushes when he was actually coming out, but that was it. Women’s bodies are designed to give birth, you’ll be fine!
Post # 11
See this post for my story. http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/how-lemon-became-cecilia
My epidural made my delivery literally pain free, though there was some uncomfortable labor leading up to it (3 or 4 contractions that I felt like I couldn’t handle).
Post # 12
For balance, I think I need to relate my experience. I have 2 children and had what’s known as “silent labor” with both of them. I was in the hospital for both births, but only because my waters broke and the babies were still 6 and 4 weeks premature.
I literally felt NOTHING as I was contracting until the last 3-4 contractions. When the doctor asked me if I felt like pushing, I said no. He told me to go ahead- I pushed once and my babies were born.
I decided to share this not because I want you to hope for the same experience, but because you need to know that there is every variation of labor out there-from zero discomfort to much harder labor. If you need a reality check though, think of this- It can’t be that bad or women wouldn’t do it more than once!
Post # 13
@jjilyeah:Ok so I don’t know because I am 7 weeks away, but I am personally more concerned about after labor & delivery than the actual main event! The recovery process does not sound fun and of course there is that whole loss of sleep and freedom thing that I am a bit apprehensive about 🙂
Post # 14
I def hurt WAY worse after the birth (I tore a little OUCH).
Post # 16
DUDE. its much MUCH worse than what you see on TV.
It burned when she was coming out and it felt like my insides were being torn apart by someone’s bare hands.
The good part about childbirth though is that after the baby is out, you immediately STOP feeling pain.
read that birth blog and then read that other blog, (link edited) =)