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That's a very nice thought, but I bet they'd rather have cash. Unless you are good friends with the vendors and actually know them well enough to pick out personal gifts that you are certain they need/want/will like.
If you are dead set against cash, maybe something safer like a gift certificate to a nice place to eat?
Yeah, I see what you mean...but I'm afraid of over or under-tipping. Our videographer commented that he liked FI's watch at our first meeting, so we were thinking of giving something similar. The singer and musician are friends, so choosing jewelry for them might be easier...
Yeah, for your friends, it'd be safe to do jewelry. I always think a personal gift is better than cash, as long as the gift is well thought out. If they are giving you a "friend" discount, be sure you sent a little extra on them.
For the videographer, I think I'd opt for cash.
As a vendor, I gotta admit, I'd be really weirded out by a watch or jewelry... and i get to know my clients decently well. Cash or an apple gift card can always be used. Cash is honestly the best just because you don't know if they may like a certain restaurant or not... and they can use it for what they truly "want."
@KLP2010: yeah, I figured as much. Cash is king :)
Thanks ladies! What's the tipping rule for photogs, videographers, etc.?
I would stick with cash. It's easiest and don't stress to much about whats the right amount. In the end you just paid them a ton of money for their services, anything extra will just be nice! I'm sure they've seen large and non existant tips in their experience!
Cash for anyone who doesn't own the business. I read on here that business owners don't require a tip - someone correct me if I'm wrong since I'll need to know by Sunday.
I can't imagine knowing what my vendors would like or need such that I could give them a good present. Just because someone likes my watch doesn't mean they want one like it - maybe they have a watch already. Unless they are friends, and then they might feel obligated to wear the items when hanging out with you.
A gift isn't appropriate--it's too personal for the situation. These are people you "hired" to work for you on your wedding day. Regardless of whether they are friends or not, they are there to work.
They aren't going to appreciate the thought behind the gift. It isn't going to become a treasured momento from a special occasion. Remember, it's not a special occassion for them--it's a job. They aren't there for a gift. They're there for the money.
Why can't you just give them the money that you would have spent on a gift?
Personally, I was going to do gifts or gift cards. A lot of work is being done by friends with their own businesses. Catering is being done by a friend who is a chef (Sur La Table gift card), friend does DJing as a side business, and he loves to fish (Big Bass Outfitters), another friend is building a wedding planning business (she'll get first dibs on any decorations, linens, etc).
From a vendor's perspective, I never have expectations of a gift. I have always appreciated a small personal gift (or better yet a referral) over cash. Even a personal thank you note means more to me than a cash envelope.
Can you do a VISA/MC or AMEX gift card? They can use it like cash, but it's not quite the same thing as handing them a stuffed envelope? Also, I'd steer away from store-specific gift cards because you never know what someone's needs are. They might be like "oh thanks for the Best Buy gift card, but too bad I can't use it at the grocery store, cause I'm hungry..."
I would stick with Cash....who knows maybe the DJ just said he liked your FH's watch to be personable?! If you leave 15% of the over all cost or what you feel is reasonable there is no under or over paying. I tipper what i felt approriate:
DJ- he cost 650.00 tip = 100.00 ( he also MC'd and was AMAZING)
Venue - $1200.00 tip = 0, they were awful, ungelpful, forgot stuff and made my life a living hell.
Photographer = 1200 tipped a book on architecture in Vancouver (she loves it) and 100.00 and the second shooter 60.00
and sooooo on....:)
My sister gave her wedding planner a nice pen from Tiffany. I thought it was a classy and appropriate gift. I think cash is so crass in general and I wish places like hair salons and restaurants would just include tip in the total cost.
Im paying 1,200 for my dj and i have to tip him?? I dont think so!!
Im paying about the same for my photographer and im not tipping her!
They are getting paid to do a job. And that is the contracted rate.
i would never give a gift in place of a monetary tip.
that tip could be the difference between making a mortgage payment or not for them. this is their job.
Haha I agree with glowgirl I don't plan giving a gift or tip
I'm paying well over 1000 for each of my vendors I don't feel obligated pay give anyore than the contracted price.
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What's the etiquette rule in giving gifts rather than cash gifts to our vendors? We were thinking of a nice watch for the DJ and videographer, and nice jewelry for our singer/musician and our photographer. This ok?