Post # 1
I haven’t posted on WB in quite a while, but now I need some advice that I just can’t seek out anywhere else.
My SO and I have been talking more and more about becoming engaged lately, looking at rings (online and in town), etc. I have given him some ideas of what style of ring I would like and have mentioned that I would like a sapphire (probably white). We’ve looked at The Natural Sapphire Company website and he liked the idea of having a custom ring designed by them.
Here’s the problem: I have now come across some not-so-glittering reviews of The NSC, and have decided I might not even want a white sapphire anymore. He has always been adamant about the fact that he wants to choose the ring himself and only wants a little bit of guidance from me. However, I feel like I’ve led him astray. I’m afraid that the guidance I’ve given him will end up in a less than ideal situation one way or the other.
So, am I allowed to tell him that I’ve changed my mind about some things, or do I just trust that he’ll do enough research on his own to find a great jeweler and a gorgeous stone (whatever it ends up being)?
Post # 3
I would absolutely tell him you’ve changed your mind!! However, I am always very direct with my FI about pretty much everything. I would tell him that you found bad ratings, honestly, because he will be paying for it and would probably appreciate that knowledge.
Post # 4
Tell him! Tell him! just say honey, i’ve been thinking more and more about it and here is what i’ve been drooling over – show him a few pics and let it be.
@jen24au: good thinking! my husband is a huge review reader and pays attention to those things – plus he wants you to be proud of your ring, i know my husband is just as happy as i amwhen he hears people comment on it.
Post # 5
@totheislnds:My FI is a review hound!!! He reads them before we go eat..I’m like, babe, you really don’t have to do that, we’re going anyway! lol. I also agree that he will want to be proud of what he gives you also, my FI still talks about how he picked such a good stone lol.
Post # 6
Thanks for the encouragement, ladies!
I think I will try to bring it up in a way that it’s more about him spending his money in the right place rather than about me being picky or something. 🙂
Post # 7
TELL HIM! I talk to my FI about everything, I think you need to tell him about your change of mind. Don’t feel like it’s bad that your giving pointers he would love to know if your style has changed! It will benefit him and you, win win.
Post # 8
Tell him! You’re in no way being picky, you’re just being sensible! And you’re not giving him guidance/being pushy about what type, size, design of a ring you want – you’re actually telling him facts that he might be glad you told him about.
oh man, just imagine you didn’t tell him and he goes ahead AND he has a bad experience – BUT that’s not gonna happen, just tell him in a semi-casual way (if you’re worried he might take it in the wrong way).
oh AND PLEASE post the pic of your ring once you get it!!! WHITE SAPPHIRE sounds amazing!!! 🙂
Post # 9
oh, and if you’re worried you won’t like the style or look of the ring he designs, just drop hints by saying what you do and don’t like when you DO look at jewellery together.
Or, just cut out pictures of a bunch of rings you love and say “hey baby, I am so excited about our upcoming engagement, and the ring is just the icing on top. You’ll make something gorgeous, and just in case you get nervous about the design or choices of style, here is a little portfolio of what I do think is really pretty and suits us”.