(Closed) Giving me an Ultimatum?!

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
1736 posts
Bumble bee

DeannaLo:  What a douche bag. Go on the trip girl, and don’t look back…



Sounds like you both have some maturing to do before you even think about marriage anyways…

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 9 months ago by  TheLadyA.
Post # 3
1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

DeannaLo:  Seriously? Good riddance to him! That’s some seriously junior high school behavior.

Post # 4
8026 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle

This is very controlling behavior. Does he act like this in other aspects? Do you get to go out and have girl’s nights or anything? I don’t know… this would be a deal breaker for me if I were you (not him!). He sounds like he’s being crazy if you’ve never given him any reason not to trust you. 

Post # 5
266 posts
Helper bee

I really wouldn’t respond to that.  What is there to say after an email like that?

Also you refer to him as your Fiance but he is your ex Fiance isn’t he? He has no right to be so demanding!

I would not respond and I would go on the trip and if he really wants to be with you let him deal with it!

Post # 8
91 posts
Worker bee

+1 on the douche bag

Post # 6
7462 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

You’d be better off if he ended things. Actually, you should just end things anyway. If he doesn’t trust you, there is no relationship anyway.

Post # 7
145 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014


DeannaLo:  Wow.  This isn’t the type of behavior that you need to be dealing with.  If he is willing to “bring a date” and flat out say he is going to treat you bad, then you don’t need to be with him.  If he can’t trust you to go on a trip with family, then his issues are beyond anything that is worth your time and effort to “fix”.  Which By The Way you can’t “fix” people…it just doesn’t happen. 

Go on your trip and see it as a good time with people who love and support you!  And let him deal with his issues on his own!

Post # 9
1421 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

Dump that garbage on the curb and keep walkin’!

Enjoy your trip and don’t think twice about him!  Good men don’t talk to, treat you, or behave like he is behaving.  

Post # 10
275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

He sounds like a child who’s throwing a fit for not getting what he wants. End it. Go on the trip and have a blast!

Post # 11
2355 posts
Buzzing bee

DeannaLo:  Ummmmmmm?

im sorry why do you even want to be with a guy that is threatening you and saying “you havent seen anything” and “il prob be a dick and go with someone else”

as much as that screams romance ….

BYEEEEEEEE! Dont let the door hit u on the way out.

Come on, have some self respect. You know that is not how you want to be talked to and are you going to deal with him being controlling for the rest of your life? Yuck, what a turn off. 


I hope you have a fabulous time on your trip!!!

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 9 months ago by  L606.
Post # 12
323 posts
Helper bee

He sounds completely mental…Is he saying he’s going to sleep with other girls if you go..? Do you even really need to ask if you’re being unreasonable, clearly he’s controlling and slightly deranged if he thinks threatening you is going to win you over! RUN FOR THE HILLS!!

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 9 months ago by  weddinglimes.
Post # 13
8026 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle

Ok I re-read what he said again and EW. No way. Do not marry this a-hole!

Post # 15
1170 posts
Bumble bee

Go on your trip.  You can’t be in a relationship with someone who threatens to cheat on you and be a dick if you don’t do what he wants.  He’s trying to control you and that is never a good road to go down

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