Post # 1
I’m considering giving $75 to 2/5 of my BMs. My mom will buy my sister’s dress, my aunt will buy my cousin’s dress, and I’m pretty sure that my one friend’s mom bought her dress (she’s a really close friend, and her mom considers me like another daughter, and she ordered her dress when her mom was in town visiting her). But 2 of my friends will have to pay for the dresses themselves. One is a grad student, and one works but doesn’t make a lot of money.
I’m thinking of giving them each $75 to put towards their dresses. They’re picking their own style dress in a certain color from DB, so the dresses aren’t really expensive, and there is still somewhat a range of prices to choose from. I just can’t wrap my mind around asking my friends to buy a dress for more money than they’d normally spend on a dress for MY wedding, but I know this is customary. Do you think this is reasonable? Can you forsee any problems with this (like the other girls feeling jealous)?
Post # 3
Don’t tell the other girls that you are helping the other 2 & I doubt they will mention to them either. I’ve heard of brides doing this all time b/c they want certain friends in the wedding, that may be experiencing financial difficulties, so I think that is very nice of you!!
Post # 4
I agree, just don’t announce it and ask these two to keep it on the DL that you are helping them out. You can even mention that the other BM’s are having family members buy the dresses, so you want to make things evensies.
Post # 5
My cousin was in my wedding, and being that she’s in her first year of college and my other two bridesmaids work full-time and can support themselves, I felt it was appropriate. However, I didn’t tell my other BMs just in case they would feel weird about it. It’s really sweet of you; just don’t broadcast it.
Post # 6
Ok thanks for the replies. I definitely won’t mention it to the other three. I’m going tomorrow with one of them, I think I’ll just casually give her a check then and not make a big deal about it.