Giving out bridesmaids' gifts when some gifts are "better"?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Shkragoldfish:  Maybe give the standard gift to them all together, and the extra gift at a more private time?

Post # 4
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@Shkragoldfish:  Of my bridal party, it really is just my sister (MOH) doing the planning. My other girls are great but it just worked out this way naturally.  

I plan on getting each girl something personalized.  The gifts won’t all be the exact same amount but in the general range of each other.   For my sister though, FI and I want to give her a really beautiful pair of earrings that cost much more than the other gifts.  

I plan to have some private sister time with her in the morning, just the two of us so I’ll give it to her then. 

I think that giving the regular gifts in a group is just fine but I would do the ‘above and beyond’ gifts’ privately. 

Post # 5
1566 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Shkragoldfish:  Personally, I would give the gifts for hosting showers, etc right at the end of the shower. That is the appropriate time to give those gifts.

As far as giving gifts with everyone around, unless you’re giving them the same value, I’d keep it personal, and away from photos. 

Post # 6
2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t think it is ever a great idea to do group gift giving if the value of those gifts are different. Especially a group of bridesmaids. Also, your photographer is quite likely to catch rather different expressions to those that you might be expecting and hoping for if they twig that some of them have been favoured with rather nicer and more expensive presents!

So I’d give them all the “standard” gift and give the extra ones privately on a one-to-one basis. That makes your gesture all the nicer and more personal.


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