Giving Rides

posted 3 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Ugh! Do you have an HR department you could talk to?

Or take your bike to work for a week so he gets out of the habit of pestering you for rides!

Post # 5
Hostess
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

@MrsD41503:  Yikes, 3 times a week? Can you not make up plans that you have to get to right away? 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Hmm… that’s a tough one. I really think that HR would tell you to just talk to your boss or tell you to give a flat out no so I don’t think HR could really help in this situation.

If you don’t want to give rides anymore, just tell them that you can’t. Say you have to pick up your husband or something now on your commute and can no longer give rides. Or if it’s just a gas issue, say you don’t mind giving rides but you would like some money towards the gas expense. It’s tough to say something but if you don’t I could see this really starting to get to you. Good luck!

Post # 8
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2627 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

How many miles is the ride your boss is asking for?

Also, you could tell him that you are not going that way and have plans to do XYZ the other direction and simply say, sorry. 

Another option would be to ask your boss if you would like to start carpooling on a regular schedule. Say I can give you a ride Tues & Thursdays and in return he could throw you $X a month for the gas. Tell your boss its easier for you to plan when its a set schedule.

Post # 9
Hostess
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

@MrsD41503:  Ugh, it’s during work? That’s what I was worried about. 

What’s the response when you say “I’m on empty?” If it doesn’t work I might be a little more explicit, like “I can’t. I’m sorry.” Giving an excuse seems to open the door a bit. 

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Is your boss a man or a woman?

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MrsD41503:  Oh during work, thats different.

What are the errands? Personal or work related? I would ask if you can expense the gas if its work related.

 

Post # 12
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1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

I would start asking for gas money.  

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

@ThreeMeers:  I agree.

Also, if it’s personal errands, that is highly inappropriate.

Post # 14
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3635 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

That’s a tough spot.  You don’t want to be a jerk and say no, but now that you’ve done it a couple times it’s expected.  Which is just someone taking advantage of you.

Say no.  However you have to.  “Sorry, my husband doesn’t want extra miles on the car.”  “Sorry, I have to go straight home.” 

Or…  “Sure, for $5.  Yes, really.”

And you’re right, HR is going to tell you to work it out and you’ll be labeled a whiner.  Unless your boss demands the keys to your personal vehicle or threatens to fire you or treats you badly because you refuse to do personal favors for him/her, then… tell someone.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@MrsD41503:  I would ask where I could find the form to write off the mileage as I’ve been using my personal car for her. I would absolutely not let it stand.

Post # 16
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1416 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

i always have trouble saying no to people, i too would have been giving rides just as you are, but when it starts to become bothersome to you, then it is in your right to say no. Push yourself to say NO and you will be surprised at how much you can get to go your way. I hate being taken advantage of and that should be enough reason for you to defend your right to choose. 

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