Post # 1
So it’s been 6 weeks since baby Smushface was born and I’ve been breastfeeding him the whole time. Recently thought I just feel overwhelmed and have started to dread it so I think I’m getting ready to throw in the towel. Personally I don’t have strong feelings one way or the other but my husband was really into it so I thought I’d give it a go.
I just feel like all I ever do now is feed him or pump or clean pump parts and it’s exhausting. Plus he’s been doing this thing where he eats for 8-10 minutes then I burp him and he acts like he’s still hungry but when I go to feed him more he cries and screams. I think I’m just over it, I’m sick of my boobs being sore, tired of fighting with him to nurse and over worrying about him getting enough to eat. So I’m thinking at his 2 month appointment I’ll talk to the doc about how to transition him to formula.
Anyone else given up?
Post # 3
6 weeks is typically a growth spurt time and cluster feeding can definitely happen (which is kind of what it sounds like may be occurring). It’s up to you what you choose to do. If you feel like you’re done, that’s totally okay and there is nothing wrong with that. However, many mom’s feel similarly around the 6 week timeframe. I certainly did. If you can manage to keep at it another 2 weeks you might be surprised how your opinion may change.
Post # 4
I chose not to breastfeed in the first place for similar reasons. I really didn’t think I would be able to enjoy the baby as much if I was constantly feeding, pumping, etc. Many people called me selfish but I really feel that a happy mommy makes a happy baby and you have to do what you think is best. Good Luck in whatever you choose
Post # 5
I had a really hard time and needed a lactation consultant which got me through the early weeks, otherwise I don’t know what I would have done. Breastfeeding is way harder and more time-consuming than most people think it is, especially if you have to work too.
You managed for six weeks and that’s far better than nothing at all. But if you can’t commit yourself full time to nursing and you’re unhappy, it’s not worth the stress. Formula is just fine.
Post # 6
I agree with Pelikila… I went through the same thing. You’re already exhausted and everything that comes along with breastfeeding can seem like too much.
I felt very strongly that I wanted to bf my son… but I chose to stop around the same time. My milk began drying up and nothing, including working with a lactation consultant, increased my supply. My baby was hungry!! I had tremedous guilt, but my now 21 month old is healthy and happy. Do I wish I had been able to continue… yes. I think it’s more important that you are able to care for him and yourself emotionally and if you’re super-stressed that’s not good for anyone in your family.
Post # 7
I have 2 kids 4 and 2 years old. I fed my oldest for 9 months straight, No formula just straight bm. I also work fulltime so I was at work pumping every 2 hours. IF you are fortunate enough to bf I think you should continue. Yes it’s time consuming and can be frusturating but thats part of being a parent. With my second I only bf him for 3 months and I feel terrible about it. I wasn;t producing alot of milk at all, so I usedformula. Plus he was a greedy bab y. I wish I could have done it alot longer. I have nothing against formula but I think your reasons for giving up are kind of silly.
Post # 8
I BF for about 4 or 5 weeks. It got uncomfortable and It was messy plus he bit me! (he had teeth coming through at birth) He took to the bottle right away and it was much easier.
Post # 9
I breastfed my two kids for 9 and 8 months respectively and I fully believe it is the best thing you can do for your baby. But I didn’t have to work and I had a nanny so I had it easy. But I do not think anyone’s reasons for quitting are “silly”.
Breastfeeding is kind of all or nothing situation. You are either fully into it or not. Most people who try a halfway approach end up quitting. Which is fine. It’s not the end of the world and no one should be made to feel guilty or inadequate as a mother. There’s plenty of time for guilt later on:)
Post # 10
@Tanya5484: To each their own, but her reasons are not silly at all and for you to say that is one of the main reasons there is so much useless mommy guilt that floats around the internet.
Camrie- do what’s best for you and your kiddo. If formula feeding leads to you being less tired/stressed then your baby will notice and that’s all that matters.
Post # 11
@Pelikila: His 2 month appointment isn’t for another 2 weeks so I may change my mind – didn’t know if feeling this way was normal (since I do think he’s going thru a bit of a growth spurt) or not.
@Miss Sapphire: Thanks for the support. I think it’s kind of crappy that anyone would say that it’s “silly” that I want to feel happier and enjoy the time with my baby rather than dreading it, it’s not like I said I was thinking about quitting so I could go out drinking more, but because I’m exhaused and in pain.
Post # 12
What if you tried to go to just pumping and supplement with formula?
My goal is 6 weeks and then I will go to exclusively pumping so I can transition back to work.
Post # 13
My baby isn’t here yet (hope she will be soon though!), but I’ve thought a lot about breastfeeding. I really want to do it, but I do know that I could have issues, the baby could have issues, and it just might not happen at all or as long as I’d like. I feel like all I can do is try it for as long as I can and hope for the best. I’ve decided that I’m not going to be upset (at least I’ll try not to be) if I have to start using bottles b/c that’s just life.
Post # 14
I was at home full-time, did not have to work, had the support of my husband, sisters and mom… and even nursing full-time, I wasn’t able to sustain the milk supply. Every situation is different and you have to trust your instincts.
btw~ the fact that you care enough to question your decision shows that you care about what’s best for your baby… I think we as women and mothers need to support each other in deciphering what’s best for our unique situations, without passing judgement.
Post # 15
some thoughts IF you want to continue…usually after the first 2 months things get MUCH easier/less painful…however, all of the feeding shouldn’t just be your responsbility. I told my DH if he was committed to me BFing for a year, then he was in charge of bottles/pump cleaning, etc. This system helps me stay more positive.
Here’s a great article that I read when I have a bad day/week of BF’ing. It keeps me going! (CoWBoy is 10.5 months and has never had formula.)
Edit: not just to OP, but keep in mind that pumping isn’t as efficient, so if you EP you will have to pump more often/longer to keep up your supply to meet demands. Also, I know you may resent all the BF effort, but formula isn’t effortless either. People resent PAYING for all that formula. Plus, you always have milk with you but if you forget formula, you will have a very loud baby. Just some thoughts on “the grass is always greener”.
Post # 16
I’m a little bit past where you are. Kayla is almost 6 months old and I’ve been going back and forth with weaning. One of the main reasons is that I think my supply is dropping off for some reason now.
Just a little background from me though: I was bleeding pretty badly at first and it took me up to 6 or 7 weeks for it to feel even just a little painful (as opposed to lip biting painful). I was pretty determined to breastfeed and don’t like to give up on what I want very easily! But after that 7 weeks, it was so much better and easier. Kayla only eats for like 5 minutes on one side now at a feeding so it’s super quick (she’s a really efficient eater). She’s skinny but growing just fine! I actualy enjoy that time with her now and it’s something I get to have with her that is just “ours.” So I agree that you may feel a little differently before your appointment.
HOWEVER!! If you don’t, then you should do what feels right for you and you LO. And even if your reasons were that you missed being able to go our with friends and have a drink or two, I wouldn’t say that’s silly. Too many people lose their identities when they have babies and I don’t think that’s good for your mental/emotional health! 🙂 No matter what the reasons, every mom has a right to choose what’s best for them!