- 5 years ago
Hi Bees! I’m feeling kind of down today because I think I am going to give up on the idea of having a “wedding”. SO and I are not engaged yet but he has the ring and I know the proposal is coming in the next few months. We talked and he agreed that I should start looking at venues since we wanted to have a Fall 2013 wedding. The more I look and realize how expensive it will be to have the kind of wedding I want the more discouraged I get. We had an appointment to see a venue tonight that I just canceled because it would probably cost about 7k to have our wedding there. SO wants to have a traditional wedding to make me happy but would probably honestly prefer to do something much more low-key.
So I feel really torn/trapped. I don’t want to have a non-traditional wedding (no offense intended, I know that there are some really lovely and creative options for non-traditional smaller weddings!) I want to have a dress and a cake and a first dance and a DJ and photographer and real china instead of paper plates. But knowing that we could use that money for other things that would be more practical and knowing that SO doesn’t really want to spend the money that way (but is willing to because he wants me to be happy-did I mention he is a wonderful man?!?) I feel like I should just suck it up and go with what he wants even though it isn’t at all what I want. I know I am being spoiled rotten and I feel terribly guilty about it. Just want to cry today but I’m hoping that the sting of giving up that dream wedding will fade with time and I know that starting my life with my amazing SO will help with that. It is just going to be hard because he doesn’t want to go the Justice of the Peace route so I’m not sure what kind of compromise we will hammer out.
Sorry for the novel!