- 8 years ago
- Wedding: August 2009
I always enjoyed reading the posts about what newlyweds wished they had done differently while I was still planning (which was until, eh hem, 2 days ago!) so I wanted to write up a list while it’s still fresh, just in case it will help others!
Glad I Did: (Big things, then smaller things)
-Have a semi-destination wedding. I think it actually made it slightly LESS stressful the days leading up to it, because I just had to let some things go while we were actually up there. (Our wedding was about 3 hours from our hometown).
-Have a whole weekend of events rather than just one afternoon. More planning, but wayyy more time to see everyone when we had a BBQ, wedding, and day-after breakfast. It all went by so fast–I can’t imagine if the whole thing had been over in a few hours!
-Have a rehearsal BBQ that everyone was invited to–it was really casual and un-stressful, and I got to have long convos with so many more people than I would have just at the wedding.
-Make things “unique.” I had so many comments on how ours was the most fun and different wedding they’d ever been to–though I’ve been to tons of weddings that are very traditional and also very beautiful, I’m glad I followed my heart and did things differently.
-Order flowers online. My friends and fam were freaked out about this because they thought the flowers would suck, or not show up, or whatever. I ordered from fiftyflowers.com, though, and it was great! Though they are beautiful, fancy arrangements were not something that I cared enough about to spend lots of our meager budget on, so I just got bulk flowers and we tossed them in vases. It was literally one fifth of the price quoted by a florist! And not too hard.
-Let the bridesmaids pick their dresses. You could still definitely tell they were a group, and now everyone has something they love.
-Go with cupcakes instead of cake–it did mean that people grabbed them before we got to do any formal cutting, but people loved them and they were so easy!
-Have a ceremony in the round. I was worried it might turn out badly, but I loved the feeling of being literally surrounded by friends and fam during the ceremony, and the guests really loved it a lot.
-Had an iPod wedding. I know it doesn’t work out for some people, but it was great for us! And saved us tons of money.
-Spent a lot of time on our playlists–especially for the reception. Our dance floor was packed all night, and a couple friends who are getting married soon were so impressed that they asked for our whole list! Our secret was making sure to not have any “mid-tempo” songs during the dancing portion of the night–only fast dance or slow dance songs, with a mix of current and older music, plus songs we knew meant a lot to our fam and friends.
Wish I Had:
-NOT STRESSED OUT SO MUCH. This is my biggest regret–mostly that I really let myself be stressed the day of the wedding when a few things didn’t go right. I relaxed when it started, but I really wish that the few hours before were spent having fun with my girlfriends sipping champagne rather than freaking out about the seating chart being messed up and this and that and having girlfriends pour champagne down my throat to calm me down!
-Not left so much for the end. (See above about stressed out). This came somewhat from having a destination wedding–I had to do a ton of stuff in the last couple days. I wish I had been better prepped for it.
-Taken more into account the emotional roller coaster I’d be on. I am usually pretty go-with-the-flow, and I thought that I’d be able to take in stride anything that went wrong day-of, no problem. What I didn’t take into account was the super-emotional-ness of almost being married, of seeing people I hadn’t seen in years, of not sleeping well for days, of arguing with my parents over stupid wedding decisions, over being SO happy and SO stressed out all at once…and it all led to me crying practically all wedding day, of (in the morning) frustration, and (at the wedding) super happiness! I wish I’d prepared better for the onslaught of emotions I’d feel and done all I could to not sweat the bad stuff.
-Left WAY more time day-of. The hair appts ran behind, then things happened at the venue, then the photog was early and I wasn’t ready…whatever time you think you need to start getting ready, add an hour. Or two, or three!
-Not stressed so much during planning. The whole weekend was super fun, but even just 2 days after, I realize that it was just one freakin day, and I spent 10 months stressing out about tons of details that either 1. We forgot to execute the day of 2. No one noticed or 3. Didn’t matter. Of course, some of the details worked out really well, but there was seriously no need for as much stress as I gave myself. (easier said than done, I know!!)
-Left more time for photos. Our photog was awesome and got in as much as he could of our shot list, but we were running late before the ceremony, and after were anxious to get to the cocktail hour, so we maybe didn’t get as many as we could have.
-Touched up my makeup throughout the night!! I was having so much fun that I completely forgot about how I looked, and with all the dancing, and the crying, and the wind blowing and a little rain…well, let’s say that the second half of the night pics could have been better. 🙂 Make a bridesmaid be in charge of making you stop and touch up a few times so you’ll look good in pics!
-On the same note, could have done more makeup trials. I didn’t love my makeup, but it was because, since it was a destination wedding, I only had time to meet with my makeup lady the day before the wedding for a few minutes. Wish I’d gotten down better with her how I wanted to look! (Or even done makeup myself).
That’s probably enough for now, haha. Anyone else? Not that I can do anything about any of this now, but I hope that my and other past brides’ lists wil help future brides!