- 3 years ago
little background …SO and I have been together 3.5 years, lived together longer than our entire relationship ( we were housemates first) but lived alone together for 2.5 years. we are both in secure jobs albeit a little in debt.
We used to talk about marriage alot and know we are in it for the long haul however, I could never get a real timeline. lately I have been probably gone on about it a little too much (you can’t really help it when the whole world and his dog is getting engaged lol) and he seemed to be getting a little antsy so I have given him space and now firmly on the SIUP pact and doing well.
Anyways, whilst out at the pub and a few drinks later i ask what he is doing whilst I am at with my Nan the next day. he says “going to town to look for presents” I asked whose and he says it is his mum’s birthday soon and then he starts talking about getting me a present when he gets paid and was really excited about it. I guessed a few things I want e.g. an amber necklace I really want, perfume, Matilda tickets and he was like no, no and getting more excited.. unfortunately my nan was unwell and couldn’t visit and he was really disappointed when I asked to go to town with him and said yes reluctantly, though due to heavy rain we never went.
Later yesterday he asked when do I go back to work (I am a teacher) and was disappointed with the date and said it had something to do with my present. he then said I had to go out when he buys the present online on Friday. I said “I know you’re a bit poor atm, I hope it’s just a little something?” to which he replied it was, I then asked if it was inexpensive and he said it was “ok”.
He said he only told one of his friends what this mystery present is (a friend he considers to be really close to though rarely sees her).
I can’t help but have a glimmer of hope but have a gut feeling I am setting myself up for disappointment.
However, along side all this he has been acting really aloof and a little off and grumpy/sad and kind of ignoring me which is worrying me, as well as being really secretive on his phone and saying I can’t look at what he is doing. in addition he had taken on the gym and shaving off all his body hair (really out of character)
Anyone else had a similar situation and what was the result? if you were disappointed how did you hide your disappointment? I can’t see what this present could be.
Through all this I have stuck to the SIUP 🙂