Ok I never actually reply to posts, but I had to reply to this one. If this is gfree by choice, then someone else will have to speak to that. If it’s gfree NOT by choice, then keep reading =].
I’m celiac and had a 1000% gfree wedding (with the exception of some beer at the rehearsal dinner – couldn’t control everything).
My hubby is super supportive of gfree. My in-laws.. ehh they try to be but they don’t understand it. My parents are so so so so supportive of it (they know more about it than me), but my italian grandma? eh she doesn’t understand it either.
Secret: we didn’t tell anyone the wedding was gluten free. the only people who knew are the people we told, and the people who planned it (mostly me and my mom). And truthfully, it didn’t matter because the food was so good. The cake, the bread on the table, the pasta course, the liquors, all of it was gluten free.
We had our wedding in Dallas, TX and the options for a gfree wedding are unlimited. It was truly amazing. We even had a pasta course all gfree. But let me make one point super clear, and I mean super clear.
IT’S YOUR WEDDING. YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO EAT THE CAKE, YOU’VE TOTALLY EARNED IT. Seek out vendors who will work with you (but do be careful that the fondant is gfree too). Experiment. Go to tastings. Enjoy the fact that you’re getting married and don’t let your gfree get in the way. I wanted to feel normal at our wedding. Like I could actually cut the cake and eat it, because let’s get real the odds of me having cake at anyone else’s wedding is very very low. Side note too, if cost is an issue with the cake, have a gluten free cake to cut (and have you and your hubby eat) and then a gluten infested sheet cake (or normal sheet cake) in the kitchen that they cut and serve to guests. Keep it in the same colors and flavors and no one will know.
Don’t let anyone tell you that’s not okay or that you should be meeting the needs of your guest before yourself. I completely agree with hospitality, but at the same time it is your wedidng and you need to feel safe at it. And if you think your guests will complain then don’t tell them. They don’t need to know what exactly it is, they just want it to taste good. It sounds like you shouldn’t have a problem selecting gfree foods, but with the cake get creative. Call and ask bakers if they’ll help you even if they don’t advertise it. It’s not easy having celiac and being gfree, but so many people are so so so helpful and happy to work with you even if you’re OCD about the room they’re making the cake in (like I was – I recommend asking them to make it first thing in the morning if it’s a regular bakery, less chance for CC or even see if they can make it in another room).
Be creative. Don’t let gfree get in the way of you being a bride. Stay strong when guests question it, or don’t tell them at all. Be confident and creative when talking to vendors, they’re usually able to help in some way even if it costs a little more money. Most of all have fun planning, you’ll have a very unique story that you’ll be proud tell afterwards (or just a fun secret between you and your hubby if people don’t know).