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FI and I want a Jack&Jill type thing for our bachelor/ette parties, because we share a lot of the same friends. This was not just "my" decision. We have talked it about it for a while, and FI doesn't even want the raunchy type of party, and aside from being able to celebrate with all of our friends together, this option doesn't put him in an awkward situation where he has to deal with his friends not listening to what he requests.

His BM & some of his GMs told my MOH that I'm simply being a controlling bitch & they don't care what I say. Ummm first of all, they were told of our wishes BY my MOH, and no one has heard anything from me directly about it. Second of all, THIS IS WHAT FI WANTS. I know this is because the GMs are single and kind of immature, but some of them are MY friends too, and suddenly it's like... oh the groom says no because the bride is a huge b***h! What?? I mean, we are paying for this wedding ourselves, and I'm contributing a lot of time and money trying to make sure everyone has a good time, and they essentially just said screw the bride???

I know FI is really frustrated, too, especially because no matter what he says they just act like he's lying or I'm right over his shoulder telling him what to say (I'm really not. I was surprised that he has stood up to them so much over this, which makes me love him even more) and either don't respond or just say "don't tell the bride". WTF!