(Closed) GMs refuse to listen to anything we say, hiring hookers

posted 5 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Reposting what I said in your other thread:

That’s when your FI tells them thanks, but he simply will not go with them on this trip. And then he doesn’t go.  Voila.  Done.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 1993

1:  Are you 100% sure they’re being serious?  I can see my husband’s friends pulling my leg about this.

2: Your fiance can make a choice whether or not to participate as he is a grown adult.  If he doesn’t want to do this, then he doesn’t have to.  It really is as simple as that.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

He needs to tell them he won’t be attending.  That a mutual party is being planned, they are welcome to attend that party, but as he will not participate in the shenanigans they are currently planning, they would be wise not to spend money on anything.

Post # 8
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462 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

That’s unbelievable. Your FI needs to refuse to go.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I would be PISSED. I am a very upfront person and FI and I have mutual friends. I would tell them straight out how I felt. If these are your FI feelings too them he should express them and they should respect what it is that he does/does not want going on at the bachelor party and if not then it is a decision he needs to make whether not he will be attending.

ETA: Sorry, I just read in the post that you guys have already told them how you feel. If they don’t respect it, then I guess there will be no bachelor at the bachelor party (of course that is his choice though)

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

simple solution – don’t attend!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

i also agree with everyone saying ‘don’t go’ – i wouldn’t. that will take the wind out of their sails right away. ‘hi, unfortunately we’ve discussed the current plans, and since we are both uncomfortable with them, we will be declining to attend. we would be more than happy to see you all on ___ night at ____ restaurant/lounge/bar instead. hopefully we will see lots of you there, we look forward to celebrating our upcoming wedding with you!’

but i do also want to point out the whole ‘you are judged by the company you keep’ thing – this may be a good time to re evaluate some friendships. not saying that you need to cut them out entirely, but i would think very carefully about whether or not i wanted (or wanted my fi) to be close friends with people who cheat on girlfriends, disrespect their friends and think hiring escorts for a joint (or not) bachelor / ette party is acceptable.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@ PeonyInLove – i was thinking the same thing. If they have no respect for you, how are they still your friends?

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

FI needs to put it more bluntly: “If it’s an overnight trip I’m not going. If you get hookers I’m leaving.” And carry through with the threat if necessary.

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