Post # 1
Darling Husband basically just told me that when I tried to help with dinner, only in nicer words. He’s right though. He’s flexible and inventive and i’m a very follow-the-rules girl. I like recipe instructions and measuring cups and he just kind of throws things together and sometimes it drives me nuts. And I’m also the hot-head between the two of us so i’m the first to start getting impatient.
Anyone else get some tough love from their SO? I feel kind of like a loser with a bruised ego here by myself lol.
Post # 3
Ohhh I have said this many a time to my Fiance. It’s better that he is honest and open with you though I’m sure it bruises the ego every now and then.
Post # 4
Sometimes things like this need to be said to avoid confrontation. There are times I need a few minutes to myself, but Fiance doesn’t understand.
Post # 4
Yeah, better he pre-emptively shooed you out of the kitchen before you get mad with one another. Turn your frown upside down by doing something relaxing in the meantime. Read a book. Soak in the tub. Chill out with the fur babies.
Post # 5
I hate being bothered in the kitchen, as does my husband. Whoever is doing the cooking that night has complete power to say “Get the hell OUT of here until I’m done!”
Post # 6
Oh my goodness, you guys are our cooking twins! I follow recipes to the T and FH hardly reads them. I get booted from the kitchen regularly. I can’t say that I mind him cooking dinner on his own though 🙂
Post # 7
my bf and I are the same way in the kitchen- he loves to cook and is so creative..I prefer to bake and just “follow” the recipe….to avoid fighting I just let him teach me how to cook more creatively, so that eventually I can wean myself off of recipes!
Post # 8
I know how you feel, but he did the right thing in saying something before it was a fight. Darling Husband and I have our own way of telling eachother we need space before strangulation incures. I will go in and turn down our bed and put his night stuff in the bathroom for him so he can take his shower, he knows that is my signal to go lounge in the bedroom and leave me alone. I think that you shouldn’t have a bruised ego, you should feel pretty good that you all have this stuff worked out. Alot of couples don’t and just fight, I think that it shows alot of maturity.
Post # 9
Yeah, I’m really glad he’s the way he is. My hubby is so level-headed and collected he makes me feel guilty for getting “passionate” at times. Sometimes he’ll tell me he thought I yelled at him when i really wasn’t trying to (but sometimes I think he’s just sensitive).
I feel the same way when I cook, too. Because i’m so exact in how I prepare things, i prefer to handle them on my own but i don’t want to hurt his feelings so when he wants to get involved, i give him strict instructions and basic stuff, like chopping vegetables to keep him busy. So it just took me by surprise when he flat out told me “Just go on the internet and I’ll call you when i’m done.”
And he’s so darned nice lol. Before he dropped the bomb, he paused and gave me this sheepish smile and just stared at me. i could tell his mind was going “How do I make this non-offensive?” before I even heard it.
Post # 10
Hehe… I find this cute more than anything! My Fiance and I both know our way around the kitchen and before anything starts cooking we determine who’s in charge of what… or we both end up with a crummy meal. Most of the time one is ultimatley the leader. We even have similar cooking styles, cooking is just such a personal thing I guess 🙂