(Closed) Go on another trip VS try to start a family

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: Another trip or try to have a baby?
    Trip! : (83 votes)
    89 %
    Baby : (10 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
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    4327 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    I’d take the trip as one last hurrah. I wouldn’t want to regret not seizing the opportunity if I knew I had a few more years of fertility left. Carpe diem. Besides, you can start trying for LO while ON the trip. πŸ™‚

    Post # 4
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    14317 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’m older than you and I choose to wait a year to go on more trips, so at your age, I’d definitely wait!!  I was 31 when married, and as much as I have been wanting children forever, we put it off another year after getting married so taht we can do two more big trips before having kids.

    Post # 5
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    1822 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Personally, I have always been travel minded my self and would gladdly put off having children to take a whirl wind epic adventure. But it depends on where you are going and what else you are going to have going on in your life at that point. There is nothing that says you CANT travel with children, or while pregnant… but having extra money set asside for a little one is always a good idea. You also have to take in to account that it might take you a few months to concieve, so if you start trying in oct 2013 it could take you a while to get pregnant while you could save up $ then.

    Post # 8
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    2699 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I feel similarly…we’ve just decided to put off having kids for another 2 years so we can emigrate and do more travelling…I’m 29, FI is 33…so you’ve lots of time πŸ™‚

    Post # 9
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    444 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @fallbride10111:  I’ll be 28 when I get married and still want to wait a year after marriage before having kids, so don’t worry!  I promise your life isn’t over at 28 XD

    Also I know how you feel, everyone around me is having babies!  But don’t let it rush you, you don’t have to keep up with the Joneses, and if they pressure you try and keep your cool and let them know that you have plans but you’re not in a rush!  Congrats on everything!

    Post # 10
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    405 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I have kids and I voted for the trip.

    You’re still quite young and you’re only waiting another year before you start, so it’s not as if you’re putting it off till you’re 40 something. Tongue Out

    Plus once the kids come along, your life is pretty much turned inside out and wonderful trips alone with your partner are pretty much are no longer possible. 

    Post # 11
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    6316 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Trip. You’re young, there’s no need to rush to start TTC just yet; you can easily go on the trip in Oct 2013 and then TTC after, and still be a fairly young mum.

    Way I see it is once you have children, it’s highly unlikely you’ll be able to take extravagent trips; it’s not just the money, it’s the time and stress, and the fact that some destinations are just not child-friendly.  So I’d take the chance to do this now.

    Post # 12
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    9613 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    trip for sure, as you said you want to go on a last trip together before you have kids, now is your chance πŸ™‚

    Post # 13
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    234 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    going for the trip, too. my fiance and I both think that it is not necessary to rush things after our wedding. we both love traveling and we plan on having a house (hope that we can afford one ’cause house prices where we live are way over the top!), Sure, we also plan on having a family. But at the moment, we don’t hear the time ticking away. Let’s see how I feel after the wedding;-) Many friends of ours already have kids. Some of our friends married last summer and she was pregnant in autumn. Well, they are not wasting time;-) Plus, they are way shorter a couple than FI and I! But we already experienced the best times on our trips! It’s just perfect being on vacation with my FI. And we think that there will be plenty of time for miniatures of us;-) Crossing fingers that we are both healthy and won’t face any problems when we start to try getting pregnant…

    Post # 14
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    272 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    go on the trip and try to get pregnant THERE. =)

    Post # 15
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    869 posts
    Busy bee

    @BerryBerry:  < This.  Coming from a mommy, take the trip!!  Don’t get me wrong, children are amazing.  But I honestly can’t even remember the last time FI and I went out for dinner alone together. πŸ™‚ 

    Post # 16
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    7609 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Triiiiiiiiiiiiiiip!

    Remember, your friends are not you.  You’re young enough that you have lots of time.  Go for it! πŸ™‚

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