Post # 1
Ok, some people may think this topic might be crazy, but I am going to ask for opinions anyway. Hubby and I are going to be building a house within the next few weeks. We really want to take another trip with the two of us before having kids, but since a LOT of our money will be tied up in building, we would need more time to save before going on another trip. I am in a wedding this fall so I don’t want to get preggo before then. However, I was thinking we would try to have kiddos after the wedding, provided we are comfortable in our house etc. I know if you wait until you are financially ready to haev a child, you might never have one.
Hubby says we could go on another big trip in October 2013 for our anniversary, but that means we’d have to put off having kiddos until then (we wouldn’t have a kid and then plan on going, b/c we just wouldn’t want to leave with a less than 1 year old, or me being preggo etc).
Sooo this is the question: Would you put off having kids until 2013 to go another trip or would you say forget the trip and start trying for a kid this fall? Also note, hubby and I are both 26 (will be 27 this year). Please don’t judge on this question…just trying to get a feel on what you would do. I know everyone will have differing opinions.
Post # 3
I’d take the trip as one last hurrah. I wouldn’t want to regret not seizing the opportunity if I knew I had a few more years of fertility left. Carpe diem. Besides, you can start trying for LO while ON the trip. 🙂
Post # 4
I’m older than you and I choose to wait a year to go on more trips, so at your age, I’d definitely wait!! I was 31 when married, and as much as I have been wanting children forever, we put it off another year after getting married so taht we can do two more big trips before having kids.
Post # 5
Personally, I have always been travel minded my self and would gladdly put off having children to take a whirl wind epic adventure. But it depends on where you are going and what else you are going to have going on in your life at that point. There is nothing that says you CANT travel with children, or while pregnant… but having extra money set asside for a little one is always a good idea. You also have to take in to account that it might take you a few months to concieve, so if you start trying in oct 2013 it could take you a while to get pregnant while you could save up $ then.
Post # 6
Thanks ladies. I feel like maybe I feel “rushed” b/c 2 of my good friends already have started their families, plus some of our family members have been asking us when we will be having kids since we got married. I know it’s about us & what we want, but I am just confused. Can’t I have all 3? (House, trip, baby- lol)…I guess time will tell but I wanted to get some opinions as well!
Post # 7
@globalmargaret: I am also worried about that. I feel like it would be an easier decision if I knew we could get preggo right away, but what if we wait til we’re 28 to start trying and before you know it we’re 30 with no kids? Guess it’s a chance we have to take..
Post # 8
I feel similarly…we’ve just decided to put off having kids for another 2 years so we can emigrate and do more travelling…I’m 29, FI is 33…so you’ve lots of time 🙂
Post # 9
@fallbride10111: I’ll be 28 when I get married and still want to wait a year after marriage before having kids, so don’t worry! I promise your life isn’t over at 28 XD
Also I know how you feel, everyone around me is having babies! But don’t let it rush you, you don’t have to keep up with the Joneses, and if they pressure you try and keep your cool and let them know that you have plans but you’re not in a rush! Congrats on everything!
Post # 10
I have kids and I voted for the trip.
You’re still quite young and you’re only waiting another year before you start, so it’s not as if you’re putting it off till you’re 40 something.
Plus once the kids come along, your life is pretty much turned inside out and wonderful trips alone with your partner are pretty much are no longer possible.
Post # 11
Trip. You’re young, there’s no need to rush to start TTC just yet; you can easily go on the trip in Oct 2013 and then TTC after, and still be a fairly young mum.
Way I see it is once you have children, it’s highly unlikely you’ll be able to take extravagent trips; it’s not just the money, it’s the time and stress, and the fact that some destinations are just not child-friendly. So I’d take the chance to do this now.
Post # 12
trip for sure, as you said you want to go on a last trip together before you have kids, now is your chance 🙂
Post # 13
going for the trip, too. my fiance and I both think that it is not necessary to rush things after our wedding. we both love traveling and we plan on having a house (hope that we can afford one ’cause house prices where we live are way over the top!), Sure, we also plan on having a family. But at the moment, we don’t hear the time ticking away. Let’s see how I feel after the wedding;-) Many friends of ours already have kids. Some of our friends married last summer and she was pregnant in autumn. Well, they are not wasting time;-) Plus, they are way shorter a couple than FI and I! But we already experienced the best times on our trips! It’s just perfect being on vacation with my FI. And we think that there will be plenty of time for miniatures of us;-) Crossing fingers that we are both healthy and won’t face any problems when we start to try getting pregnant…
Post # 14
go on the trip and try to get pregnant THERE. =)
Post # 15
@BerryBerry: < This. Coming from a mommy, take the trip!! Don’t get me wrong, children are amazing. But I honestly can’t even remember the last time FI and I went out for dinner alone together. 🙂
Post # 16
Remember, your friends are not you. You’re young enough that you have lots of time. Go for it! 🙂