Post # 1
I know this post may sound like I am a total bitch but I really need to rant right now.
FI and I had his friends over for dinner tonight at our new place. This couple has two kids, one boy who is maybe 5 or 6 and a baby girl who is 2. I am very impatient with kids, I pretty much don’t want any even though we still have not settled this with FI but he has said he will be okay with us not having any. Anyway, my tolerance level is already low as it is on a good day when it comes to children.
The night wasnt awful but I had to mop the floor a total of five times which did drive me insane because both kids make lots of crums and especially the baby girl kept asking for crackers and I mopped after her every single time (yes I am aware I could have waited but I am very very impatient with kids and I hoped after dinner she will stop asking for food or at least one that crums). Anyway, FI and I just got a new glass table worth $550 on sale..it’s a beautiful glass table and it is in our living/kitchen room. The baby girl got a hold of my red candles and started using them on the glass..no biggie I took them away and scrubbed with Windex…now when they left I went to do a proper clean of it and yes, you probably guessed it..I have a decent one cm scratch in middle of my table..it is not the most noticable but it’s there, I NOTICED IT and I am literally HYSTERIC at the moment…not that much because it’s big but the table is brand new and it is expensive and I don’t feel like I need to put up with it because I didn’t choose to have kids and I think people who do have them should seriously watch over them when they are at other people’s places…I am so mad right now I am fuming. All I wanna do is call the parents and scream “You are paying for this!”
I know I sound like a bitch but sue me. I literally screamed at FI and said “AND THAT’S WHY WE ARE NEVER EVER HAVING KIDS!”
Post # 3
Take a breath girl. The scratch can be polished out of glass.
Post # 4
UUUUUGHHHHHH that is terrible and I am sooooo sorry! I like little ones from a distance…I can’t imagine at this point having to “baby proof” everything, and you shouldn’t have to either! Your friends should have been MUCH more responsible; I’d never let my friend clean up the messy my child made (numerous times), and I’d never let young kids even touch a glass table. That’s a “grown up” item, that just shouldn’t be around kids. I think when you cool down, maybe you should mention to your friend that while you appreciate their company, that having their children over was a bit stressful and I’d certainly mention that your new expensive table has a scratch…irresponsible parents are the worst. Your story reminded me of the Sex & the City episode when Carrie lost her Manolo’s at her friend’s house, and her friend was unsympathetic because she has kids and “bigger” priorities than shoes…Sorry for your situation! Have a glass of wine!
Post # 5
I love kids, but man those parents sound irresponsible! They should’ve been keeping a better eye on their kids in someone else’s house.
Post # 6
I have ONE (1) child – she is now 22. One. For the very reasons you pointed out.
The best is when you have mopped for 4 times in one night and then cannot find your ering/wring or favorite dessert/drink because they had (innocently, natch, not really) taken it to be “grown up”. But then one day they say, “I love you the best!” with a little hair-tendril falling over their face and that 4yro giggle and hug.
Go ahead and vent, girl. But remember, kids, whether you have one or 7 (holy shit!) have a place in this world. And yes that glass(bottle) of wine will fix it all for the night.
Post # 7
@Sladi4ka: this is really over the top. If you feel so strongly about kids, next time and forever invite your friends alone. I wouldn’t expect them to come but save yourself and them the stress. I’m sure they could tell you were frustrated and did not enjoy themselves anyway.
Post # 8
@Sladi4ka: Why did you invite the kids to your house if you hate them so much?
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
Wow. Honestly just don’t invite your friends over next time if you hate (their) kids so much.
Post # 11
@Sladi4ka: I’m sorry you had such a terrible night. I have a similar tolerance for children and parents who don’t tend to them.
Post # 12
I have basically zero tolerance for poorly behaved children, too. I want to have my own eventually, but I can only pray that I will learn how to discipline them properly and be able to afford babysitters for a night in with my friends. You better call your friend and ask that she pay to have the table buffed. I agree that you need to make it clear that children are not welcome over if they stress you out so much. This may look bitchy, but you have to do what you have to do for your own sanity. These parents also need to learn to either make their children behave and clean up after them, or they will lose their adult friends…kind of like my parents did with three children. xD
Post # 13
@julies1949: good news!
OP I agree that if the kids stress you out so much you shouldn’t invite them OR, for your own sanity, perhaps you can buy a plastic table cloth for kiddy visits.
I also agree with the PP who said it’s crazy they were allowed to do that in your house!
Post # 14
I feel the same as you, OP! I feel so uncomfortable with kids in my house and I don’t even have a lot of valuable items. I’d be so enraged and I’d be looking to find out how much it’d cost to get the scratch polished out. I hope it’s not a lot. UGH. Can’t trust kids.
I love them outside my house – I’m an elementary school teacher. But I prefer not to have them at home for any prolonged period.
Post # 15
I used to put a plain clear shower curtain under the dining table and chairs when my kids were little. I am not talking about the kitchen table- the dining table. It takes all the stress out of worrying about stains on the carpet.
I can’t imagine being a guest where the hostess was jumping up every 5 seconds to sweep up crumbs.You wouldn’t have to worry about me coming back.
I do agree that the parents should have monitored their cildren’s behavior and stepped in.
Post # 16
Listen OP I get that you’re super angry, and I get it because those parents should’ve been watching their children the entire time and also should have cleaned up the mess. I’ve had guests to my home before with their children and did not have to pick up food from the floor or worry about where they were running off to, so I think it was irresponsible on the parents’ part. But once you calm down, just think practically about what you can do about the table. There are ways to remove scratches from glass. Of course I don’t know them, but it can be done.