Post # 1
Opinions? I’m not sure what I think here. In vitro is something my FI and I would have to consider if we wanted a child but I have never thought of doing fundraisers for it.
PS sorry mods don’t have a clue where to put this one!
Post # 3
I would not ask for money to fund my lifestyle choices, period. I wouldn’t really care if someone did this, but I wouldn’t donate even if I wasn’t this broke 😛
Post # 4
I don’t know. I tend to hate that site except for rare occasions. I’ve seen too many “fund my trip to Europe!”
Post # 6
A couple having a baby is their own responsibility- however it needs to happen. I would not donate to this.
Post # 8
I don’t know, that seems like an incredibly personal gofundme page. People would expect constant updates. If anything goes wrong it’s going to be so much harder on you having people asking about it all of the time. I think that’s one to keep between you and your SO and close family.
Post # 9
If a good friend of mine set up a gofundme for in vitro, I’d donate in a heartbeat. I wouldn’t search through gofundme and donate to random people I don’t know for it, though. But I’d never look down on people who set up accounts for that.
Post # 10
@jbh13: oh I’m not! haha my FI & I don’t even want children. I just stumbled across a family friend who apparently has one and has raised a decent chunk of change. Only about 1/10 of what’s supposed to be the total costs but it’d send me & FI on a good vacation =P
Post # 11
I probably wouldn’t donate, but what would it hurt to have a gofundme?
Post # 12
@PaisleyMedic: I’m almost certain it was set up for close family/friends. I can’t really imagine anyone setting up something like that expecting complete strangers to care about their struggles.
Post # 13
My intial impression was one of indifference, but after reading some of the responses, some other bees drive a good point.
IVF isn’t always successful, so if you actually raised the money for this (incredibly personal) procedure & it didn’t work out, it wouldn’t exactly be something you could keep to yourself. People tend to notice whether or not somebody has a baby, especially when they attempt to fund the process lol.
I can understand the idea of behind it, and if one of my family members created a gofundme for it & I had the extra money, I would probably donate because it really is a great cause. But then you have to consider all the other facets, such as the procedure not being successful & feeling the urge to explain that to those that contributed to the fund, or having a successful run with it, having a baby, and then facing people who feel a sense of entitlement over time with the child after they contributed to it’s inception through IVF…
Post # 14
No…this is not a good idea.
Post # 15
Someone I know just started a gofundme page for her divorce. She doesn’t have a job, so she wants $25,000 so she can get an apartment and afford food. So insane! She should just get a job. I think this is something people should pay for themselves.
Post # 16
For close family/friends, I don’t think it’s that weird. That stuff is incredibly expensive, and even though it’s weird to think of the physical aspects of IVF (think of funding your friend’s shots, doctor visits) I try to compare it to adoption monitarily.
So I ask myself: If my good friend/sister and their husband really have been trying forever to have a baby, and now want to adopt but can’t afford it, would I donate if I could? Absolutely. So I guess I would donate to their IVF fund too.