Post # 1
How many of you were able to make it around to each table to thank/greet your guests at your wedding? We have about 150 people (16 tables). We’re not doing a receiving line or anything like that. Just curious how you made it work. I feel like all the weddings I’ve been to recently the bride and groom tried but weren’t able to pull it off. It makes no difference to me but I suppose some older guests might be offended by that. Please just share your stories and experiences.
Post # 2
We are doing a receiving line directly after the ceremony as they go into the house for cocktail hour.
I know that doesn’t help you much, but I figured i’d chime in!
The thought of us trying to get to everyone during the reception just seems like a nightmare and I have to eat dinner or i’ll pass out.
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
We did a receiving line, and I am glad we did because out of 14 tables I think I made it to three of them! We were constantly called away or had people coming up to us to take photos or give congratulations. People were constantly in and out of the dining room to go to the bar/bathroom/whatever…it was impossible for us to get to every table. Plus I wanted to eat my dinner! LOL. We just enjoyed ourselves and tried not to worry about it. People who really wanted to talk to us came up to us or joined us on the dance floor. Quite a few of our guests left right after dinner and most of them came up to say congratulations and let us know they were leaving for the night.
Overall I don’t think anyone was offended, I wish I could have spent more time with everyone. We danced a lot at our wedding and people who joined us out on the dance floor got to spend more time with us. A lot of our guests spent most of their time by the bar and I never really got over there much, but all I’ve heard from people since is that they had a great time at our wedding.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
sullybear: We are doing a receiving line. FSIL actually said that she wishes she had done one and regrets not because she was not able to make it around to every single table (she had 100 guests) – there was so much going on that she just wasn’t able to. Some people were definitely offended. She also found it difficult to enjoy the reception portion because of this. A friend of ours did manage to get to all the tables. Most people did a receiving line, though. I guess it depends how jam packed you are with things happening at the reception/how long your dinner or meal portion will be, if it is a sit down. Sorry that I was not much of a help, but I thought I would share some different experiences …
Post # 5
Yea, we can’t really do a receiving line at church and really aren’t interested in the idea either for ourselves, but that’s good to hear you all had so much luck with it (I do agree it is the best way to guarantee you speak to each guest).
Our reception is 5 hours and is buffet style, so maybe we can grab some people while they’re waiting to be called and in other random moments. Hopefully we get the chance to eat! I think we’ll make it a point to get to all the family/old folks and if we skip over friends we will definitely see them out on the dance floor so not as big of a deal.
It’s going to be so weird fighting off attention for once and trying to be a social butterfly. I’m used to being the awkward girl in the corner at a party…
Post # 6
A couple of weddings I’ve been to the bride and groom went around to every table with their photographer to snap a picture with guests at each table. This allowed them to chat a bit with everyone but still make sure each table was seen.
Post # 7
We went around during dinner and greeted every one of our 250 guests. We didnt have much down time to enjoy the meal but our guests really appreciated getting to chat with us personally instead of being pushed through a line up.
Post # 8
sullybear: We did not have a receiving line. At our meal (brunch), after the toasts, we were taken to the buffet first, ate a little bit, then did table visits. We really enjoyed those visits and our photographer got some terrific candids – we didn’t even know anyone was taking photos! LOL
Post # 9
Swizzle: This is good to know! As a guest, I’m typically really un-interested in receiving lines. They feel so…forced? We are probably going to have 175-200 guests. How long did it take to go to every table during dinner? We had the same plan as you!
Post # 10
sullybear: We had 200 guests. While we had a receiving line, we each also went up to tables at the reception during the dance. We didn’t make it a point to go together or make it to every table, but if I saw someone hanging out I’d go say hi and thanks for coming.
Post # 11
Since you are doing a buffet, what if instead of having the catering staff let each table up you and your groom go to each table to tell them they can get in line for the buffet. That way you say hello, hugs, congrats, and then tell them it is their turn at the buffet. Then they will be anxious to get their food too so your chatty aunt won’t monopolize too much time? I’ve never really seen this done but it could also help keep the buffet line to a minimum? Then you guys can sit down at the end and eat your food?
We finally decided on a first look so I’m hopoing between cocktail hour and visiting tables during dinner we will get to greet all of our guests.
Post # 12
I didnt go around (I know, bad bride). I genuinely tried during cocktail hour to see each person but everyone ended up all mish-moshed all over the place.
After cocktail hour I just wanted to dance, if people wanted to see me… they would have to be on the dancefloor. In the end I feel like I did see each guest! I really dont know if I missed anyone…. I did try but I didnt bend over backwards either.
Post # 13
sullybear: I lucked out here. I was in the hospital for the week leading up to my wedding, so all of my guests came to me so I could stay seated! Most of the guests who were family I got to speak with at the rehearsal dinner also. One of the worst things about weddings, I think, is not getting to spend enough time with the people who traveled to spend your day with you. Just do the best you can to speak with everyone! (Most) People understand that the day is a blur and you may not get to everyone!
Post # 14
sullybear: We were able to go around to say hi to everyone during cocktail hour. We did a first look and the bulk of our photos before hand, so we were able to join the last half of cocktail hour.
Post # 15
sullybear: we had a little over 150 and greeted every single guest. It was just something we felt we had to do so we made it work. We didn’t eat much so we were able to greet most people during dinner. You just have to limit the conversations.