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    stephinPA    October 29, 2010   Reading, PA

    Does this ever happen to you?  The idea of it was wonderful.  Heading to Cape May, NJ for a weekend with 3 other good friends.  It was originally a Ghost Hunting weekend but now it's more just a relaxing weekend.

    And we leave tonight but I kind of wish I was staying home with my FI and our dogs, getting wedding things done and enjoying each other's company.  Not too mention this week has been very busy and FI and I have barely seen each other.  I miss him.

    As of now I'm still going...would you still go?

     
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    mc77    May 15, 2016   Arlington, VA

    I completely know how you feel, I do this a lot too! If it were me, yes I would still go because I wouldn't want to start a habit. If I started canceling plans with friends when I just don't feel like going then I think it would be easier and easier to do. Besides, I always end up having fun even if I didn't feel like going :) I have this problem with the gym too hahahaha

     
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    moderndaisy    June 2010  

    Yes, still go!! You don't want to get burned out with wedding planning and connecting with your friends actually might give you precious insight to what's really important.

    I know what you mean though. I hate travelling in general and I HATED traveling before the wedding since we were trying to save $ and were working such long hours, but EVERYONE wanted to see us. We constantly heard "Oh, let's hang out before the wedding!" And I just had to laugh, because obviously there couldn't have been a worse time.

     
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    CorgiTales    February 1, 2011  

    I am a total hermit. I make plans and then I never want to go. But I will say.... most of the time I make myself go and I'm glad I did. I think it sounds like a fun relaxing weekend and as long as you like all of the people going... you should go. :) 

     
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    AnamCara    April 10, 2010   Ireland/Connecticut

    I'm the same - I like to be at home with DH and the puppy.  Wish I were there now!  (darn work...and DH stayed home today...)
    Anyhoo - if I were I would go because you'll be glad you went in the end but I know it's hard to get excited about it when you just want to stay home!  I don't make plans with friends very often because of my inclination to stay home so when I do make plans I try my best to keep them - my friendships need a little TLC every now and then.  If you see your friends all the time I can see why you might want to stay home even more!

    Relaxing all weekend sounds good to me - I say go and enjoy it!

     
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    Ella1978    June 19, 2010   Cleveland, Ohio

    I have to force myself to do things sometimes.  Whether I'd rather spend time with my husband, and not wanting to travel, even as simple as not feeling social that day, I find that I'm much happier that I went after I've forced myself to go.

    Friendships are important!

     
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    stephinPA    October 29, 2010   Reading, PA

    You guys completely rock.  I'm so glad some of you go through this feeling too.

     
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    PitBulLover    August 21, 2010  

    @stephinPA: I have definitely felt that way many many times. And just like the other bees have said - I usually am really happy that I went. Sometimes the anticipation of something is WAY worse than the actual thing itself. Taking a break from wedding planning will be good for you and Im sure you will have a great time with your friends!

     
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    Aubergold    May 2012   DC metro

    I hate traveling, the packing, the riding with so many people, feeling cramped, having to arrive an hour before you can actually leave.  UGH.  Im going to visit my familt this weekend and Im like...mmmmmeeeeeehhhh...

     
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    missmouse29    July 2011   NWOntario, Canada

    Oh man I am right there with you, we have to travel 4+ hours to go see my parents for turkey weekend (tonight!), and then early sunday travel another 2 hours to go see my partner's family for Turkey Day Take2, then on Monday we travel 3hours home, and on Tuesday my partner flies for a 3 day buisness trip.

    I just want to stay hooooooome. Why Can't I just be a petulant teenager anymore?

     

    Unlike most others I am usually anything but glad if I actually do go. I am like the doom & gloom of travelling if I'm not gung ho for it. Try as I might to not be miserable I have a really hard time not letting my grouchiness sour the fun(for me, I'm pretty good at putting on the happy face for everyone else).

     

    @CorgiTales:

    I tell people I am a hermit all the time. They think I am joking, but it is the truth.

     
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    cleve_girl01    August 13, 2011   MI

    Haha...I can't say it any better than Corgitales. I think we may be the same person. :)

    Seriously, go! You will have fun, even though you have to drag yourself out of the house.

     
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    Violachap    November 13, 2010   California, MD (Wedding in Norfolk, VA)

    I definitely get that feeling often. Sometimes it means less drama by just staying home with FI. But you should go, sounds like an awesome weekend, and it'll be worth it :-)

     

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