Post # 1
One of my bridesmaids told me that she has been saving for my wedding for years (before I was even engaged). It was equally touching and disturbing. I realize that weddings are uber expensive (i’ve been to a kazillion and was in six bridal parties); but I should’ve been saving for them.
Do you save money to attend other people’s weddings? If so, how much do you try to save?
Post # 3
@lissayun: I was on a mission team and my teammates and I have stayed very close, even a decade later. Whenever I hear one of them is in a relationship, I start saving LOL They all seem to get married really fast and they live all over the country, so that means flights, hotel, gift, outfit, food…. Thankfully the last one coincided with us planning a 10 year reunion, so we just moved the location to 45 minutes from the wedding and carpooled there!
I’ve been unemployed for a year and my absolute best friend in the entire world decided to get married about a 5 hour drive away. I’ve been saving my pennies for the entire year. Bridal shower, gas, hotel, gift, outfit, food… her wedding is going to cost me the equivilent of what I’ve been LIVING on for a week lately.
Post # 4
I have a certain travel budget / gift budget set aside each year that I use to spend on friends. So, if a so-so friend invites me to their wedding, it will fall under this budget. I made an exception for best friends (none of whom are married so far). Sadly, the people who invite me too late to their wedding, I don’t go, but I do make a cost/benefit decision
Post # 5
I start saving when I hear a couple is engaged HAHA, Last year my BIL decided to have his bach party in Las Vegas, needless to say my FI was his Best man. Well we had to shell out a TON of money for that one. flights from the east coast to LV is not cheap! oh and we got, well I’ll pay you back but never give us the full amount….
Post # 6
Um, I just save in general, and am lucky enough to have a decent paying job so its not too hard.
I do keep my eye out for cute dresses on sale, though! I need a new pair of fancy shoes, my last pair of dresses shoes recently fell apart ($3 at a thrift store, years ago 🙂
Post # 7
@lissayun: SO and I recently decided to do this. We’re setting aside $75/week from our general spending budget.
Post # 8
My FI and I have 5 weddings to attend by the end of 2013. All of which require some sort of travel (as little as 1 hour away to 7 hours away). Some require a hotel, some don’t. Between travel, lodging, gift money, clothing, etc. we will spend around $1,500 . Booo. So, knowing this we will need to make sure and set some money aside.
Post # 9
I did last summer, because I had 8 weddings to go to, all of close people. So once I realized I had to travel, but gifts & pay for hotels for all of those weddings, I started saving. But I really didn’t save that much, or for that long, just enough that I dind’t have the deeply ring up massive credit card bills. Other thatn the year of weddings, I generally don’t, I like to keep enough money on hand that I can afford a wedding once in a while.
Post # 10
I just save in general, I don’t save specifically for weddings. If I have a lot of weddings – there goes my vacations. I try to save where I can (I know a LOT of people in different cities so I’ll stay with others sometimes to save on hotels) and just suck it up. I rarely buy a new outfit for weddings.
Post # 11
Like PP I save once there is a ring (or if it’s a super close friend, once I know there will probably be one.) 🙂
Post # 12
I’ve honestly never even thought about it…
I would never want my BMs to spend more money than they could afford at that time though. I paid for nearly everything for my BMS – hair, dresses and accomodation. I love them and didn’t want them to feel burdened by my wedding.
Post # 13
No, but I don’t travel for a lot of weddings (the advantages of living in a country with only a few major cities). I do have to travel for one this year, but we’ve had 10 months’ notice so there’s lots of time to save. I don’t find weddings expensive if I don’t have to travel – I just buy a gift, and wear a dress I already own. Or if I’m a bridesmaid, there’s the dress money but not much more. I too would be disturbed if someone had to save up for my wedding.
Post # 14
yes, although I’ve only been practising this for 2 years. I like to give monetary gifts and while saving for my own wedding attending other’s weddings is sometimes tough.
Post # 15
@lissayun: FI’s fraternity brother told us about a year before our engagement that he had special funds set aside for big events down the road, such as when his friend got a promotion and when FI and I got engaged. It was precious (this dude is as bro-tastic as they come) but weird as well. people are funny!
Post # 16
I do not save money to go to other people’s weddings. Generally we have a lump sum sitting in the account so we COULD go, so the next thing is to decide if it’s a priority to go, what other expenses are coming up that year, if we are close to them, or if we even want to visit that area.
We would never go if it’s not a good financial move. Going to someone else’s wedding should never drain your savings either – that’s a sign it wasn’t a smart decision to go!