Post # 1
Help Please! I’m looking for some advice and guidance about name changing. I have ALWAYS gone by my middle name. I am getting married and I don’t know how I should change my name. I don’t know which name to drop. I know your first name is important but I like my middle name and my last name much more.
I guess I have three options to use:
my middle name – my last name – his last name (drop my first name)
my first name – my middle name – his last name (drop my last name)
my first name – my last name – his last name (drop my middle name)
I guess the last option is not practical because everyone knows me by my middle name and I don’t want that to change. I guess I can’t really use 4 names, by just adding his last name to my full name? I know most everything you have to fill out just has room for 3 names, and I don’t know if your license and legal documents allow you to use 4 names either. I guess I have to give something up but I don’t know what. I don’t know if there is something that says I must keep my first name.
Does anyone have any helpful advice???
Thank you!!! – Kealy
Post # 3
You can still keep your first, middle and last name, then hypenate (or not ) his last name.
Just because you are known by your middle name, as are many people including myself, you don’t have to get rid of your first name.
All 4 names would generally only be signed on legal documents, otherwise it would be middle, last and his last names.h
Post # 4
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I know people with 4 names. There are people named like Mary Joe Lou Smith. If you’re feeling weird about dropping your first name, I would just add his last name. You don’t need to drop anything. If, however, you feel no attachment to your first name and it really doesn’t add anything, I think dropping it makes a lot of sense. Then you could have ID cards and documents that have your now middle name actually be your first name on all your stuff. Luckily, these types of changes aren’t huge deals to most people. I think everyone would understand you having a long name or dropping your first name.
Post # 5
I’m contemplating the same thing, you don’t have to keep your first name. It’s just a pain in the ass to drop it. Depending on how hard it is in your state, you might want to just legally use 4 names.
Post # 6
i legally have 2 last names, no hyphen– you can totally do that as an option. (ie, i have 4 names, 3 of which are “last” name types of names, as my middle name is my mom’s maiden name)
Post # 7
I was going to have 4 names but it didn’t fit on the social security card!
Post # 8
I go by my first name and I use my middle name (like it’s my last name) so I’m not taking his name at all. I might drop my last name all together or take my mothers maiden name… haven’t decided.
Post # 9
Just add the last name to his name if you want. I already have four names. On some things it doesnt fit.. but its still my legal name.
Post # 10
you should add a poll….
I vote option 2. Good luck
Post # 11
I say drop your first name. If everyone knows you as your middle name anyways, why not?
I absolutely hate my middle name. I love the name my mother had originally intended to be my middle name, but she changed her mind right after I was born. I tell her it’s my punishment for her being in labor with me for 36 hours lol.
Anyways, when me and my FI get married, I’ll be dropping my last name (which I also hate) and picking up his last name, and then changing my middle name to what it was supposed to have been all those years ago.
It’s your name – do what makes you happy 😀
Post # 12
If you don’t want to have 4 names or a hyphenated last name, I would say do:
Your Middle Name – Your Last Name – His Last Name
Your Middle Name – Your First Name – His Last Name
Post # 13
You don’t have to drop any name if you don’t want to. I have 4 names because I didn’t want to drop any of my names. It’s all about preference and what you feel comfortable with. If you feel comfortable dropping, for example, your first name, then do it. If you don’t want to do that, then don’t.
I can tell you it can be a pain trying to write your entire name. My first and middle name are 4 letters, but my last names are both pretty long. Even though legally, I have 4 names, when I sign for things (like Fed Ex packagers) or when someone I have just come in contact with asks for my name, I just write or tell them my first name and my husband’s last name. It’s easier.
Post # 14
@julies1949: that sounds good because I really didn’t want to drop any of my names but my name would be 21 letters, it’s 5 letters for my first, middle and last name, and 6 letters for his last name. I just hope I wouldn’t have to write all of that out all the time. I guess when filling out paperwork that ask for first, middle and last name; I would just skip my last name at that point?
Post # 15
Thank you to everyone who left their thoughts and suggestions!! It’s been a great help and it’s good to know that I don’t HAVE to drop a name.