(Closed) Going cray cray and trying so hard not to!! UGH.

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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866 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@sellison27:  Good luck with everything! I couldn’t tell from your post whether her not being officially out to her family is a hindrance to you two becoming engaged… If so, then hopefully with your support she’ll be able to work up the courage to have an open conversation with them! It sounds like they already suspect, but I know sometimes having everything out in the open can still change family dynamics. 

Whether or not that’s an issue, it sounds like marriage is on her mind! Have you two had a “timeline” conversation? Even if it’s not as official as a timeline conversation, I’m a huge advocate of having an open conversation to make sure that you guys want the same things within roughly the same timeframe. That might also make you feel better about waiting, if you know that she knows what your expectations are! In the meantime, don’t think about it too much and don’t let yourself go crazy! It will happen in time, it sounds like she’s thinking along the same lines, and just enjoy this time and embrace the anticipation! Good luck πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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866 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@sellison27:  Could be soon, then! Welcome to waiting… I am going nuts right now, too, my SO and I spoke about a timeline and it could happen anytime now… So probably not for at least another six or nine months, but possibly sooner. It’s that possibility that is keeping me on pins and needles, I’m over-analyzing everything! I love having these boards as an outlet, people in real life don’t understand this type of distraction! Hopefully you’ll get the support you need on here as well! I guess my only advice is not to stop enjoying things even if they don’t lead to a proposal! It’s easy to be disappointed when fun dates and big events go by without a proposal and completely miss out on those experiences in the meantime. 

Keep us updated and best of luck!

Post # 6
Hostess
3000 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Hmmm — Sounds promising, you’re going to drive yourself nuts waiting chica!

Post # 7
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5496 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@sellison27:  hold on – i just saw this! she has not told her parents!? is that crazy?

Post # 9
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5496 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@sellison27:  Ohhh ok but you stay in the same room so they KNOW, they just havent had a formal CONVERSATION. Got it. My parents are way too pushy/overly-involved/controling for that to have worked πŸ˜‰

Post # 11
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5496 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@sellison27:  Wow, that’s interesting! Well, it doesn’t sound like it will shock her parents and if they already know/like you I predict it will go well πŸ™‚

Post # 13
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1541 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@sellison27:  Hopefully it goes over well with her parents. Before SO and I got together, I had only dated women. My mom was initially shocked, but she adjusted well to it. My first gf never told her Mom ever though I’m pretty sure she knew. I found it tough with her denying it to her, but we weren’t very serious.

Coming out can be tough, especially if she’s older and never brought it up. Sounds like her parents already know and welcome you, so it should be good.

 

Good luck!

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