Post # 1
We have been planning a May wedding for my daughter and her fiance for 9 months. This week we found out she is pregnant. (using both birth control pills and condoms..what are the odds?)
Anyway I love them both, they are young but will be college grads by the time the baby comes. Its the fil’s that are acting like asses and driving me nuts. Her fmil just stared at the TV when they told them, her ffil cried. Her fmil sent her an email saying don’t expect financial support…the kids have NeVER asked any of us for help.
I am trying to be a good Mom. We are working on moving the wedding to Jan from May but I just want to scream. It’s take two and I am furious that his parents arent’ being suppotive..they love my daughter.
On top of everything my daughter is very emotional now so I am having to be very careful..I just needed to vent.
Post # 3
🙁 I’m so sorry. 🙁 It’s a very stressful time already, without people being ugly about it.
But, congrats on the grandbaby!!! How wonderful!!!
Post # 4
Kudos to you for being such a good mama- your daughter is so lucky to have some one who is so loving and supportive (and seemingly completely sane btw). I suspect his parents just need time to go through all the emotions that come with such big (and unexpected) news. Everyone reacts differently, and though they may have been prepared for their little boy growing up, getting married, stating a family, at some distant date (namely May), this just made everything all the more real to them.
That said, the number one job of parents is guidance through life, support, and love, it sounds like they are lacking in each department not because they don’t love their son (and your daughter!!) but because they are simply overwhelmed.
Give them time to go through the emotions and reach a place where they can be happy for all involved.
After all, not everyone can be as awesome as you! Again, as a young 20-something recent college grad and daughter of an awesome mom, I just have to say thank you for being so wonderful to your daughter. I sincerely hope I would be as lucky.
Post # 5
Congratulations to your daughter and future son in law! I’m sorry his parents are being difficult, but perhaps they will come around.
I have a family member who was very much in the same situation (despite all efforts to avoid it), and the parents were not excited… but by the time we had the moved up wedding, all was right with the world!
Post # 6
Also, props to your daughter to for practicing safe sex. While (obviously) not foolproof, it’s a decision that shows her responsibility in making adult choices. Good for her!
Post # 7
This is such a tough situation, and unfortunately it’s all too common. Hopefully his parents will get used to the idea and come around. It would be one thing if they barely knew each other but they’re already engaged and planning for their life together. They are very lucky to have you and I’m sure that they will need your support and love.
Post # 8
What a great, supportive Mom you are! I say, congrats to your daughter and future son-in-law. I would hope that by the time the wedding rolls around, the FIL’s will have had time to get over the initial shock and be as supportive. Hopefully they will follow your example. Your daughter is so lucky to have your love and support through a stressful time.
Post # 9
I think Mrs. DG said it right. Congratulations are in order! You are going to be a grandma! I really don’t know why the future in laws are so upset … were they not taking this whole marriage thing seriously? It’s not like she just got knocked up by this guy to trap him or anything.
Did they really think your daughter would WANT to get pregnant before her wedding and have to wear a maternity dress down the aisle? Come on, it’s not like she did it on purpose! The couple getting married are probably wayy more scared than anyone else, and I think those sill in laws need to get their heads and hearts in the right place for their sake FAST!
Post # 10
Thanks for the support…I think the fils are not ready to have their ‘baby’ grow up..he’s the oldest and the fmil feels too young for her son to get married (she said that) Can you imagine how the Grandma thing is hitting her? Lol.
I did want to mention to the bees that my daughters doc thinks that her birth control pills failed due to her being on antibiotics. I didn’t know this was a possibility so if you are on bc pills be extra careful..I guess even condoms aren’t enough:)
We are excited about the baby and the wedding…there is so much to do. On top of that my son and dil are expecting in March and my other son is a new Dad with a daughter 7 months old…my friend said ‘it’s raining babies’.
The task now is to give them as close to the dream wedding they planned with very limitd time and a new venue. Our May venue is an hour away and although available the weather could make it inaccessible. So, budget is a big issue and planning quickly another.
Again, thanks for kind words…
Post # 11
Kazoo, just wanted to say your daughter and future son in law are lucky to have you! It’s great that you are so supportive and understanding! Congratulations on both the marriage and the baby! And yes.. I’ve heard that about the antibiotics!! Whod’a thunk, right?!