Post # 1
I am stressing about how many hours I’ve been working and am wondering if I should quit my second job.
I just got my Master’s in May, and found a temp job. I’ve got a permanent offer from them, but we haven’t gotten to the money part just yet. I have a feeling we’re going to be around 35k. (why can’t a girl just get paid!)
I also bartend and have a very lucrative job. The last two weekends I took home $800 and $850 for 20 hours. A slow weekend is $400 for about 13, an average weekend is $500-600 for about 16 hours. Obviously this is beating the pants off my professional job.
I’m starting to go beserk with working 60-70 hours a week. On Fridays I work 9a to 3:30a. The bar needs me to cover shifts sometimes, for example Thanksgiving weekend I’m scheduled about 35 hours at the bar alone. I’m going to be at work almost every minute of that week but Thanksgiving (actually, I’ll be at the bar at 4a Thxgiving morning)
With a few minor complaints, I do love my bar job. It’s a classy place I’ve worked at from the grand opening, and am very connected to the staff and regulars and have the most seniority in the place. And obv the money is great! lol
I’m starting to go a little crazy tho. I’m thinking when the professional job and I sit down about the offer, maybe try working there only 4 days a week to get a weekend out of Sun and Mon? Don’t know if they’ll go for that or if it’s a good idea. Or I could try to give up hours at the bar, but it’s hard when I’m making half my 40-hr pay check in one night of bartending. Or I could quit the bar all together, make a lot less money but have a way less stressful life. This is so appealing sometimes, but other times I think I’m crazy for giving up that cash, and also get sad thinking of leaving the bar because I’m very emotionally attached! (haha)
What would you guys do?
Thanks for listening!
Post # 3
@chillinchillin: Would it be possible for you to cut your hours at the bar? I think even though it is less money I would prioritize the professional job because it will hopefully lead to a better job eventually that you can make a career out of. It is hard to take the cut in pay though!
Post # 4
@MsCarabiner: +1. I think this advice. If you can make ends meet with less hours at the bar, that sounds like the best way to go.
Post # 5
@chillinchillin: I’d stick it out, but I love working 60+ hours per week, and love the money that comes with it! My husband won’t let me get my second job back. I’m fighting him tooth and nail for it!
Post # 6
I agree with @MsCarabiner: I would cut back your hours at the bar job, but still hang on to it. I also have two jobs, but one of them is per diem (I’m a nurse) so I can just pick up what hours I want to work, which is nice and keeps me from feeling overwhelmed working 2 jobs.
Post # 7
I used to do two jobs; one “professional” one and the other one a fairly easy (but surprisingly lucrative) one – working in a shop..
I loved working hard, and I loved the extra money; tips, free food and all that. But a year ago I decided to quit; just because I felt like I wasn’t getting enough quality time with my Fiance (well, boyfriend at that time). And I have to say; as much as I loved it, and as much as having that bit less money does hurt… I haven’t regretted it for a second. I’ve got so much more energy to do all the little things, and I’ve got so much more TIME to dedicate to myself, my friends & the Fiance.
It’s a very personal situation for everybody. I worked two jobs for years, and loved it. Now I’m a one-job girl and love it.
The fact that you’re already thinking about scrapping one job is a good indication that all things aren’t well. Can you take a break from your bartending job for a few weeks to see how it is without it? (in UK we get 4.5 weeks statutory holidays; not sure how it works in the US!)