Going crazy waiting for the ring…

posted 2 years ago in Proposals
Post # 2
7920 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Your answer to why he’s waiting is a lot better than many ladies- he already proposed and thought you were engaged. You were right to tell him that you don’t think it’s real until there’s a ring on your finger (talk is cheap, I agree). But now he knows so you need to go back to distracting yourself and waiting patiently. Or else you will get a knee jerk proposal which will greatly disappoint you. “You want the ring so bad? Fine, here it is”. You don’t want that. You are almost there- relax!

Post # 4
65 posts
Worker bee

So I have a very similar situation. Dating four and a half years, have lived together for some time, “pre- engaged”, however I am about five years older. We also decided to go custom. I am not even sure if he got the ring. I just said said this is what I want and that was that. (am actually convinced they will make it wrong, it won’t fit, and i will hate it; the person i talked with was a real snob)  

You are young, he has a ring. Unless you are in a hurry to be engaged. Relax. We designed our ring over five months ago.  Trust me I have gone crazy multiple times and have given up on the whole idea. I think men get it in their head if they wait a long time after we won’t expect it. It is either that or they know it drives us crazy. … as crazy as hair ties and Bobby pins every where drive them. Lol

By what you have said it sounds like he just wants to surprise you with a new proposal, ring in hand. 

As for the waiting just keep reminding yourself he had the ring you are pretty much engaged (you have told others), and you are going to have him the rest of your life- even a year is short in the big picture. Enjoy who you both are now with your engagement nerves the if when and how gee well purpose again. Possibly look on WB at engagement rings just for the fun if it. .. try to relax and keep your mind off of it. 

Pre- congratulations!

I’m sure it is coming soon 🙂

Sorry this was so long

Post # 5
653 posts
Busy bee

I get that a proper proposal is important for many people, but you seem to be losing sight of the fact that this man is already planning on marrying you and in his mind has committed the rest of his life to you.  Why do you need to rush a proposal from him when you know it’s already happened and will happen again?  just calm down.  let him do it on his own time.

Post # 6
64 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Agree with the other commenters. It is SO HARD to wait for the ring once you know it’s there, but he’s probably just trying to plan a wonderful proposal. Don’t get me wrong I looove engagement rings, but the committment is the absolute best part of being engaged.

Stay strong, girl! There’s lots of great ring porn on here to keep you occupied 🙂 Also pre-congrats!

Post # 7
3430 posts
Sugar bee

Brunette26:  He may honestly think your proposed and doesn’t feel the need to rush the ring proposal.  Could he feel because you haven’t told me people that you’re ashamed and not happy and he’s less proud of the ring he bought?

My husband proposed without a ring as well, he had it but it was in my jewelry drawer.  It didn’t make the proposal any less real.  We told people the next day we were engaged.

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