Post # 1
I’m starting to wish I had chosen to elope lol
I’m getting opinions about everything… for everyone and its really starting to overwhelm me. I’ve been to 2 bridal shops so far, both with my mom in tow and shown my friends, bridesmaids and fiance the dresses I like… Everyone is giving their opinions, and while they’re none too shy about being harsh, I am; and they keep showing me dresses that aren’t particularily my style and telling me what I should and shouldn’t wear and I can’t get up the nerve to tell them “That’s not what I had in mind, but thank you for thinking of me”. I don’t know whats wrong with me!
So I’ve made 3 appointments with 3 different salons to try on dresses… by myself… and I am telling NO ONE! I don’t want ANYONE there to influence me. I’m thinking at this point to keep the dress a big fat secret that no one will see until the day of the wedding. lol
I’m just nervous at this point of what the salons will think and if I’ll be treated with the same respect I would if I came in with my mom or bridesmaids… and even worse… what will my family and friends think when I don’t involve them in the dress proccess?
Have you ever shopped alone for your wedding dress? how was it?
Post # 3
@dv3849: I don’t think its weird at all! My mom lives in another state from me and I mostly went alone…I found “the one” when I was by myself…..tears and all!! I wouldn’t have had it any other way. I personally think its great b/c you are allowed to form your own opinions without others giving their 2 cents. I watch say yes to the dress at times and think that most of the people the bride has brought should have stayed home! Good luck and happy dress shopping!
Post # 4
@dv3849: I nearly did, but didn’t. You go for it and enjoy it.You don’t need to tell anyone if you don’t want to, it will hopefully give you an idea of what you like, if nothing else
Post # 5
Honestly, I feel like the salons probably love it when bride-to-be’s come in by themselves. Instead of having 5 different people give their opinion (based on their style, not the brides), there’s time for the Assistant and the bride to work out what looks best, and what the bride wants, and can afford.
I say do it, and keep your dress a secret, and choose something you love!
Post # 6
I shopped alone a few times, actually…..it helped me really figure out what *I* liked and wanted, rather than having all the oohhhs and aahhhhs of friends/mothers etc. I took my mom and BFF a couple times and then went by myself to narrow things down, then one last appointment to make the final decision.
Post # 7
I did, my consultant was entirely nonplussed that I didn’t have anyone with me — I don’t think it’s that rare, maybe?
My only regret about shopping alone was that I didn’t get any pictures of me in the dresses! I coudl have been doing self shots in the giant mirror, I just TOTALLY forgot to. Then after I ordered my dress I had to wait so long for it to come in that I practically forgot what it looked like, lol.
Post # 8
I loved going shopping alone…. I was able to form my own opinion with out sway from my guests. Best decision I’ve made so far!
Post # 9
After 2 appointments ending with me more confused and undecided then when I started, I went to the third appointment alone. I was able to stay on track with what I was envisioning for the big day and was so much more focused and calm. Then I went back with 2 bridesmaids to make a final choice among the favorites of the solo visit
Post # 10
I went shopping for my dress alone and I truly enjoyed it. I didn’t have anyone to listen to and I took all the time I wanted to try different dresses. The consultant was really nice and when I did find ThE DRESS, she brought a bell and I had to shake it to celebrate the fact that i had found the dress. This was my second dress. The first one I had ordered it over the Internet and when I received it I was so happy that I showed to my fiancé. A few months later when I went to the seamstress to get alterations done on that dress, I realize how much i didn’t like it and there was no way I was going to get married in that dress. So I came home, had a bite to eat and went to a bridal shop all by myself. I to regret not taking pictures of the dress but I know that when I had it on, I just loved it and felt so comfortable in it. I’ll be getting it this month. Can’t wait. I will bring it home but there is no way I’m showing it to anybody. Not even to my fiancé. It will be a big surprise for everyone to see my dress on my wedding day.
Post # 11
There’s nothing wrong with going shopping alone. It will allow you to focus on the most important opinion – yours!
Post # 12
First time I went dress shopping I had a big group with me. Everyone had their opinion and we were getting no where. I got frustrated and ended the day.
I decided to shop on my own the next time. Find a few dresses I really loved and then just invited my Mom and MOH to come see the dresses. This was a way better experience! I got to see what I loved without people’s opinions and remarks. Helped me make my decision. Once my Mom and MOH came, I tried on a few and they loved my favourite too.
Post # 13
Not weird at all! If you’re the kind of person who is easily influenced or confused by other people’s opinions (or, if your bridal party/relatives have very strong opinions) then I think it’s good to go dress shopping solo at least once.
Post # 14
I would’t suggest it for the first time out. But if I had to go on day 3 I was cool with going alone.
Post # 15
Shopping alone is the best thing ever. I went with a small group twice, but it was stressful even with the small amount of people. I have a couple friends looking at stuff that is their taste and wanting me to try it on, while my mom is also looking at stuff she likes and turning her nose up at the stuff I like. SO ANNOYING. I felt so bad for my bridal consultants because my crazy mom kept dragging in dresses to them for me to try on, WITHOUT EVEN ASKING IF I LIKED THEM. I’m the one paying so I don’t need anyone elses opinion on what I will be wearing.
Post # 16
When it comes to Wedding Planning, it is ok to do your Research however you feel…
BUT in the end, sharing that info with a bunch of people just tends to create Drama / Trauma
So the fewer people you tell / share with… usually the better
My first Wedding, My Dress Shopping adventure was something I undertook with my Parents.
And NO ONE saw my Dress before the Wedding Day
This time round… it too was an Elopement.
I bought my Dress with one friend there…
Again didn’t share it with anyone til the day I had it on… altho this time I wasn’t quite so concerned with secrecy, and Mr TTR did see it on the hanger before the Wedding
My best advice…
Stop sharing… don’t take an ENTOURAGE with you… take just a very few trusted people… 1 or 2, max 3.
And YES for most Brides THE DRESS is a personal thing… a feeling if you will… you will know the right dress by how you feel in it.
That is all that matter… YOU have to LOVE it, and feel great in it.
Because that will radiate.
Hope this helps,