Post # 1
I recently got engaged (14th feb) and I am going dress shopping tomorrow. I am a plus size bride (size 18/20 in UK, so size 16/18 in USA) and I am worried that everything will look like crap or that there won’t be samples in my size.
I will be going with a close friend who I know will be supportive, but I know if I come across any horrible/ rude shop assistants I will get upset.
Does anybody have any advice about making the experience more enjoyable?
Post # 3
I too was dreading going dress shopping, I didn’t think anything would look good on me and I too was afraid they wouldn’t have anything in my size!! My first stop was at a bridal boutique and the lady I had was awesome and showed me several dresses in my size which I am a street size 16/18. My advice would be to go in with a positive attitude and enjoy it, I didn’t really take the time to enjoy and have fun with it and I regret that!! But there will be something for you out there! And try on as many as you want and try on different styles, I hate my arms, so I didn’t think there was anyway I could pull off a strapless, but that is what I ended up with and I Loved my dress!! Good luck and have fun:)
Post # 4
I know that when I go in a couple months,I will be calling ahead and making sure they have Plus sized samples. I refuse to go somewhere and be made to feel less than because I’m not a size 6! lol So, I figure I will take it into my own hands and ensure the good experience!!
ETA: I am a street size 18/20. Keep a smile on your face and remember that you are beautiful!
Post # 5
I haven’t gone dress shopping yet, but when I do I plan on taking my sisters with me. Two of which definitely have no problem telling off rude sales people, and the other will do it if she gets mad enough. And I’m much bigger than you, I’m not all that concerned cause I know my girls got my back. So my advice is to take people with you who are supportive and don’t take people’s crap : )
Post # 6
I agree!! If you have a great support system with you then it will be OK. I agree with @crisark about calling ahead and seeing who has my sizes. And if all fails you always have your girls like @lee_ann said. lol
Post # 7
I’m going Friday… and I know I’ve been stressing about it because I actually had a nightmare the other day about gowns!
I had a long talk with myself. And remembered that this awesome man asked me to marry him exactly as I am. That he loves me and thinks I’m the most beautiful woman in the world. Exactly as I am.
I know the shop I’m headed to carries plus sized samples, and while I am on the smaller side of plus size, I wanted to make sure I wouldn’t be crying in the corner with nothing to try on.
Definitely try on all sorts of different gowns. YOu never know what will be amazing! My last wedding I felt like I needed to wear a certain style because of my body and I regret that terribly.
You will be fine – we’ll all find a gown that make us feel like beautiful brides, and your friend will be there to take a picture when you do 🙂
Post # 8
Best of luck tomorrow 🙂 I know David’s Bridal has a big selection of larger size samples.
Post # 9
@SoontobeMrsA: I was about to say that!
Yep, I got my dress from David’s mostly because I loved being able to wear a sample dress in my exact size (some lines run a little smaller, but you can still find one that fits). It was nice knowing what it would ACTUALLY look like on. I am about the same size as you, plus I am 5’10. The dress I got doesn’t look “cheap” or anything bad you may have heard about David’s — though the sales people are hit or miss. Mine, however, was wonderful. So hopefully that makes you feel better. I do know some boutique’s carry plus sizes, but certainly not all of them. That was my first shopping experience and they were pretty damn rude to me, so we left. Good luck and have fun – don’t stress yourself out over this. 🙂
Post # 10
While I am not plus sized, I have MANY plus sized friends (including my MOH), and I used to be right on the borderline of plus size before I lost weight (I was about a US street size 12/14)
One thing that I know my friends found helpful was hunting down a bridal salon that caters to plus sized women. There is one in our state, and I googled “plus size bridal salon UK” and found that there are at least a few that came up.
I know from talking to friends that a bridal salon of this nature can be really nice because ALL of the samples fit, and you don’t have to worry about falling in love with a dress that is a sample size 10 and not being able to get into it.
Post # 11
I went wedding dress shopping for my first (and ended being my last) time about 2 weeks ago. I felt the same way. I’m a USA jean size 16 and I was so scared and nervous to go. Like pp’s, I was scared nothing was going to fit, nothing would look good, and that the consultant might be mean and just try to push a sale. I’ve also been losing weight and planning to lose more weight so I was going in with the plan to get a smaller size and thought what if the consultant fights me on this.
Once I got to the bridal store, the owner greeted us, she was very nice, and we met my consultant. She was super nice and wonderful. We sat down, she asked me what I was looking for, showed her some pictures of what I liked, got me into the room and started to pull dresses. They didn’t have some of the dresses I had brought in but she tried to pull similar ones. The first dress she pulled and put on me was The One! It gave me such a great shape and made ME feel beautiful. I tried on five other dresses after that one, some from the pictures that I had brought in but they just didn’t compare and I felt like I was wasting my time trying on anymore dresses.
It’s good that you’re going on a weekday. Weekends can be very busy and add to the stress/nerves. I went on a Thursday and I was the only one there for a bit and then another girl came but it was only the two of us.
Remember they’re there to help you find your dress. Don’t feel pressure to buy a dress if you don’t feel right or like it’s your dress. If you do, I would suggest walking away.
Bring ideas of what you like but also try to be open to their suggestions. My dress ended up being a fuller A-line and I was originally going with a slim A-line.
I hope you have a great time and have fun!
Post # 12
@Lubylu89: I just wanted to add that if you go to a shop and get treated poorly, don’t waste your time. There are plenty of other bridal salons out there that will be thrilled to get your business and treat you the way a bride should be treated. Don’t feel like you have to stick around and try on dresses if you aren’t getting good service. I’m a size 24 and was anxious about dress shopping too. I was lucky and had a wonderful experience, however there have been bees who did not make out so well. If a size 24 can have a wonderful experience, so can you, so don’t settle for anything less! I hope you have a great time shopping! Be sure to let us know how it goes.
Post # 13
I’m a plus size bride. I went dress shopping with my size 3 sister who is also getting married and was looking for a dress. That did not help things at all. The wedding dresses make you look SMALL, but my problem was my arms. You can’t really hide those. I’m waiting another 4 months before I go back trying to get in better shape, but I know that the sales lady was way nice and didn’t make me feel bad about my body or how I looked and there were tuns of choses.
Post # 14
Others have probably said this, but not to worry – nothing fits anyone! They clip you in with those things you use to start a car. No matter how thin you are they will still use liberal amounts of modesty panels to make the sample sizes presentable. Enough, anyway, that you can go out from behind the curtain and show off for your entourage.
Being a taller woman myself, it was a little bit awkward in a way that clips and panels can’t hide. Nothing says bridal glamour like a dress that skims your ankles rather than the floor, haha.
Post # 15
I know how you feel. I felt the same way before I went shopping too, and i think a lot of us have. I say go in with an open mind. Most times when ANYONE goes shopping the dresses aren’t in their size, either too big or too small. I tried on as many dresses as I could and some where really disapointing because I couldn’t get them up over my hips. But they were actually getting me in dresses 2 to 4 sizes smaller then i am just so we could see how things would look. I ended up getting a dress that I couldn’t even try on by trying dresses that were by the same designer, in the same fabric, and then we pinned them to get the same cut as the one i really wanted. Take a deep breath, and if you get to a shop where you don’t like how you’re being treated just leave. they don’t deserve your business. Take some Ibuprofen before you go and drink a lot of water, I got a horrible headache from trying on so much stuff and being out all day. Stop and have lunch with your freind during the day and just try to enjoy the rpocess. i think there will be a lot more then you realize to try on and you’ll find some amazing things. Stick to your guns about what you want to, because sales people can be really pushy when it comes to plus size brides and what they think we should wear. you know what looks best on you and what makes you feel beautiful so go with your gut.
Take pics and let us see! I bet you’re going to be beautiful! Have fun!!
Post # 16
Thanks girls! Once again all you lovely bees have been amazing.
Just thought that I would update you on what was going on. I went dress shopping today with three of my friends and I have to say, the first shop we went into was AMAZING. The lady there was so accomodating, she didn’t mind there were so many of us and she seemed to be enjoying the fact that we were all having a great time. She even let us have a look at bridesmaid dresses and all of my friends just loved trying them on.
The second shop I went to wasn’t as enjoyable. She seemed to be really hung up on the fact that I won’t be getting married for another two years. She kept mentioning it and was a little rude about my size. I’m not seriously looking at the moment, but I just wanted to try on some dresses to get an idea of style, colour and prices.
But all in all, I really enjoyed it. There were two dresses that I REALLY liked, but a few others that I would try on again.
Thanks again for your advice girls.