(Closed) Going from seeing each other daily to LDR sucks…and I haven’t even moved yet!

posted 8 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
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553 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I am with you. My FI and I live together and we have since before we were a couple. He is leaving for a job soon four hours away (not too bad) and luckily it is only for 6 months. I don’t know how to enjoy the time we have together without just being sad that he has to leave.

Sorry no advice just empathizing! I am sure I am going to pick fights with him because I am upset too.

Post # 4
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226 posts
Helper bee

My FI is Canadian and when he leaves, I’m stuck in KS all alone. I hate it, but it forces me to make the best of our time together. Usually, we try to spend time making memories together. Try some new things and fall back on old favorites too. We go to the local botanical garden and walk around together and take photos. We have a movie marathon or cook our best dishes for one another. I like to leave little goofy notes for FI to find. Just make sure to say that you love eachother and show it everyday.

Post # 5
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383 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My fiance is in the middle east for a year, and right before he left I was probably mildly unpleasant to be around, so I totally get it!  First, be honest with him if you haven’t already that the reason you seem unhappy isn’t because you’re unhappy with him — it’s just the opposite!  Communication is key here.  Secondly, spend the time doing things you two normally love, and if that’s eating in your favorite restaurants, or cuddling up on the couch doing nothing, DO IT!  Enjoy this time you have before you leave, because I think you’ll regret it later if you aren’t truly present right now.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

  Hi,

  It’s been a little while since you’ve posted this, but I hope things have settled down for you! I’m in a LDR with my SO, and it looks like we have a little bit longer before we can be in the same city.

  Do you have a webcam? You and your BF can use Skype. That really helps us when we miss each other. Also, communication will be your best friend at this point. Do things to keep you busy. This helps in two ways: 1, it keeps your mind off of missing him. 2, you will have something fun to share with him when you guys talk!

  Will you be able to visit him? We get to see each other about once a month. In the summer, I see him a lot more, since I have the summers off. A trick that helps me to not dread that last day of seeing him is to have an idea of when my next visit will be (either a definite date set, or a rough estimate).

  Good luck!

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