Post # 1
Bees I am so sad. I just graduated from nursing school with my BSN, passed my nursing boards, and landed my dream job! exciting right? But it requires me to move away from BF and our puppy. We were hoping to get engaged this summer and married next fall, he has already asked my parents and I know the proposal is coming. We have been essentially living together the past 2 months since we got our puppy even though I still have my own place. My job starts Monday so I am leaving on Sunday. But here is the problem. I am already sad and missing him before I have even left and he is interpreting it as unhappiness with him. So we have gotten into a couple of little spats over the stupidest things. This is not how I want to spend the last couple of days with him but I can’ help feeling sad that I’m leaving.
So all you bees in a LDR, what do you do to enjoy the little time you have together?
Post # 3
I am with you. My FI and I live together and we have since before we were a couple. He is leaving for a job soon four hours away (not too bad) and luckily it is only for 6 months. I don’t know how to enjoy the time we have together without just being sad that he has to leave.
Sorry no advice just empathizing! I am sure I am going to pick fights with him because I am upset too.
Post # 4
My FI is Canadian and when he leaves, I’m stuck in KS all alone. I hate it, but it forces me to make the best of our time together. Usually, we try to spend time making memories together. Try some new things and fall back on old favorites too. We go to the local botanical garden and walk around together and take photos. We have a movie marathon or cook our best dishes for one another. I like to leave little goofy notes for FI to find. Just make sure to say that you love eachother and show it everyday.
Post # 5
My fiance is in the middle east for a year, and right before he left I was probably mildly unpleasant to be around, so I totally get it! First, be honest with him if you haven’t already that the reason you seem unhappy isn’t because you’re unhappy with him — it’s just the opposite! Communication is key here. Secondly, spend the time doing things you two normally love, and if that’s eating in your favorite restaurants, or cuddling up on the couch doing nothing, DO IT! Enjoy this time you have before you leave, because I think you’ll regret it later if you aren’t truly present right now.
Post # 6
It’s been a little while since you’ve posted this, but I hope things have settled down for you! I’m in a LDR with my SO, and it looks like we have a little bit longer before we can be in the same city.
Do you have a webcam? You and your BF can use Skype. That really helps us when we miss each other. Also, communication will be your best friend at this point. Do things to keep you busy. This helps in two ways: 1, it keeps your mind off of missing him. 2, you will have something fun to share with him when you guys talk!
Will you be able to visit him? We get to see each other about once a month. In the summer, I see him a lot more, since I have the summers off. A trick that helps me to not dread that last day of seeing him is to have an idea of when my next visit will be (either a definite date set, or a rough estimate).