Going Off The Pill: Help Please!

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
Member
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@hisgirl10:  Pick up a copy of Taking Charge of Your Fertility and buy a basal thermometer.  The book also has a great support website at fertilityfriend.com where you can print paper charts to keep by the bed and fill in online charts for interpretation.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@hisgirl10:  If done properly, the POM can be highly effective.  I’d use that in conjunction with charting, so you can get to know your cycle and maybe avoid or use extra protection around ovulation.

Post # 5
cherrypieBee
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008 - A tiny town just outside of Glacier National Park

I love being off birth control now, and I found TCOYF (book mentioned above) effective for both pregnancy prevention and helping us TTC.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

One acronym – IUD

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@hisgirl10:  While I would really recommend something different, if you want to go with the POM and chart, there is a sticky in the forums here http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/what-to-expect-ttc#axzz2mXYReSNw

It will tell you everything you need to know about TTC or avoiding. I woud also download the Fertility Friend app and take their courses online. They are a wealth of information.

Good luck.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have used a diaphragm for the past 7 months and DH has been pulling out as well around my fertile window. Has worked well for us, love my diaphragm 🙂

 

Post # 9
cherrypieBee
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008 - A tiny town just outside of Glacier National Park

@MsJ2theZ:  I had the copper IUD for two years and it was definitely not as nice as just being off the pill. Somehow, off the pill and charting, I still had light periods… Paragard gave me hideous fountains of blood and terrible cramps. I eventually took it out myself.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@cherrypie:  That’s too bad. I loved mine, and so does everyone I know that has an IUD.

Post # 11
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Helper bee

@hisgirl10:  Condoms. Condoms are non-hormonal and very effective. We used them for years till we were TTC. And frankly I prefer condoms. There isn’t jizz sliding down my butt and all over the sheets with them. When we were TTC I seriously got so sick of condomless sex. And he lasts a bit longer with them, which he likes. I never understood why so many people are against them. I assume it’s men just ‘it feels better without one’. But I’ve never been with a man that had any trouble having an orgasm. So it’s sort of like they want women to have to take a pill every day and have artificle hormones for years, which increases odds of all sorts of bad things so they can achieve a slightly faster orgasm? I realize I’m in a minority. But I’m a big fan of them. 

Post # 12
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304 posts
Helper bee

BCP makes me sick too. I started using the My Days app about 6 months ago and I feel about 100X more confident about “birth control” that I ever did when I was taking hormonal birth control. It will take you a few cycles before you can really count on it, but once its accurately synced to your cycle, you’ll love it.  I will NEVER take hormonal birth control again. It’s amazing how EASY natural birth control is once you the hang of it. Love it. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@lucyv2003:  I’d be careful with just using an app (unless you’re also taking temps etc.). I used an app and tracked my periods for almost two years. Based on the app and my CM, I thought I was ovulating around day 18 of a 32-33 day cycle. Based on that information DH and I thought we were safe having unprotected sex on cycle day 8. Long story short, we were not safe and I’m now 8 months pregnant lol. Fortunately we did want a baby but that particular month we weren’t supposed to get pregnant because I was booked to have some testing (an HSG) done on my uterus and you’re not allowed to be pregnant for that!!! Needless to say, we had to cancel the test.

Post # 14
Hostess
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@hisgirl10:  I have been using charting and POM to TTA for the last year. It’s been amazing, and I feel so much better not having the additional hormones. I had the mirena IUD, and I will say it was the best hormonal birth control I ever had (also used pills and nuva ring) but it still killed my desire and some other effects. 

I do think it’s important if you’re going to chart to TTA that you actually read all/most of TCOYF and not just use the FF course. The FF is really geared toward TTC, and TTA is not quite as simple as doing that backwards. I think if you were to follow the rules 100%, it would be extremely unlikely that you’d end up pregnant. However, if you get lax with the rules, obviously that’s the time it’s going to fail. I will tell you though, that we were pretty strict about using POM during the FW instead of condoms or abstinence, and I’m not pregnant. We would have been fine with it if we did get a BFP though. 

 

@As_You_Wish:  +1 on this advice to @lucyv2003: . If you’re not charting CM or temps or something and just using the app, you’re essentially using the Rhythm Method, which doesn’t work well at all. Mainly because there is no way an application can accurately account for the more extremes of luteal phases or even just the fact that ovulation can be delayed. I’ve seen it on my chart, and had I went with the “Oh, well I ovulate around CD 18 so we’re good now,” mentality, we DEFINITELY could have gotten pregnant that month we moved and my egg didn’t drop until CD 22. I’m not saying that you can’t do it, but just that if you’re not charting anything else the risk for it to fail as birth control skyrockets. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee

@As_You_Wish:  I use CM too. I am also one of those people that can feel ovulation. I know it’s crazy… 

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