Post # 1
I’m really starting to struggle here and i would love everyone’s opinions…
so our wedding is this September, I just recieved our invoice for everything and it’s about $3,000 over what we were really comfortable spending… (we are primarily paying for everything ourselves) after doing the math if we could cut all hors d’oeuvres and cut our guest list by 25 people that would save around 2,000…but is it really worth cutting all of that, or should we just buck up and find a way to come up with the extra money?
Or do we push it back until we can save more?
Or look for another venue on short notice that may be cheaper?
Im just having a hard time going over by that much when we still have so much to do, and we would like to still go on a nice honeymoon!
Thanks in advance ladies!! I’m sure I’m not the only one stressing over the budget!
Post # 3
It depends on if you can cut spending in other areas. I’m spending less than $300 for all of my flowers, so I was able to add an hour to our open bar. If you’ve already cut everything else down to the bare min, I would consider cutting your guest list. You don’t want to be stressed out about money you don’t have just before your wedding.
Post # 4
I think it depends on what your piority was.. for us.. we just simply wanted somewhere cute to get married, and a building to have our reception. It doesn’t have to be fancy, our ceremony space is costing us $125, and our reception building is costing us $375, that’s 10 hours on the day of, and 5 hours for set up the day before.
I think you should discuss with your fiance, what is important for your wedding.
A gorgeous venue? Having all your families there? A lower budget? Cocktail hour? A large, delicious meal?
Sometimes you just can’t choose everything, so you have to choose which ones you want more.
For us, it was :
– being able to bring in our own food & alocohol
– big enough space for dinner & dancing
– large enough to hold our entire guest list
– good price
Post # 5
@blakley08: Hey! I got done with my wedding almost a year ago now and had plenty of budget pitfalls.
What always helped me was sorting my priorities of what I was willing to spend for what i felt was important to me. What cut down HUGELY on food costswas that we had noon reception where we served a light lunch. Anything earlier can be benificial as breakfast/brunch items are relatively cheaper than a full meal. A piece of advice from my mother-in-law also helped; when having a late evening wedding/reception you can always do a dessert and drinks reception instead of a full meal. Its definitely helpful.
You can stay on budget and still have plenty of guests, as my southern baptist grandmother would say,”Back in the day, you would invite your entire family and the whole town. it would be like Jesus feeding the 5000, there was plenty of everyone.” I don’t know where your budget is hurting the most so I can’t say for sure if its food,photography,decor, or what. Remember that all the fancy things that all these websites and articles say you SHOULD have at a wedding can ALWAYS be cut or find a much cheaper, and sometimes even more eco-friendly alternative.
I know as I got closer to my wedding..I wanted everything, the whole kit-n-kabodle. Sometimes we have to take a breath, take a step back emotionally, and think logically. What do you absolutely need, vs. what you highly prefer? You’ll discover you experience can still be just as beautiful without a HUGE price tag.
Post # 6
I’d look at your guest list and see who you’d potentially cut out. If it really pains you to cut those people, then look into trimming other things to reduce the cost.
Post # 7
@blakley08: It might help if you shared what is in your budget. That way we can look and see if there are areas that you might be able to cut back on.
Post # 8
I guess it was just a shocker to see that invoice…we have cut back on pretty much every other area of thee wedding (professional dj- family member(free), cake-family (free), photograpgy-family friend (free) flowers- buying wholesale- (SAMs club) …it was most important to have an outdoorsy venue that could host our family and friends comfortably and in a location not too far from everyone.
This venue provides all of that, our invoice included pretty much everything- ceremony site, cocktail hour by the lake, tents for reception, tables, chairs, linens, food…etc. minus the alcohol-we provide that.
After reading everyone’s comments I think we really need to start by taking another look at our guest list…I’m totally ok with making it smaller, it may be my fiancé that has a battle with that haha idk why he thinks it’s necessary to invite everyone we’ve ever met haha I have kept him down to inviting 200 but I think that needs lowered some more!
Post # 9
I agree with PP that your best bet is to cut the guest list at this point. The items that are not impacted by guest count (e.g. DJ/photos) are already free, so at this point, everything else is impacted by guest count, including rentals, flowers (centerpieces), and food. You may be able to cut food costs down depending on what you are serving. Some food items are cheaper than others. For example, pasta and salad are always less expensive options than meat-heavy BBQ and roasts.
Post # 10
@blakley08: I don’t really have any advice. DH and I were $6000 over budget. We had everyone there who we wanted to be there, and it was a perfect day. Even though we went over, we were still able to save that money (and then some), and we wouldn’t have changed a thing. I honestly think that if we cut guests, or food, or whatever, I would have regretted it. Do what you are comfortable with. If you can save up the extra 3000, and cut some things out in your daily life, that is the route I would go.
Post # 11
Cutting down the guest list is the easiest way to save $. Also, keep in mind that not everyone’s going to show up! Obviously you have to plan on the max #, but in the end you might not spend quite as much. If you love the venue and it works well for your wedding then you should keep it. See if there’s anyone you can easily cut from your guest list. If you can’t do much cutting then consider doing a smaller honeymoon trip nearby and saving up for a bigger trip for your 1yr!
Post # 12
You haven’t sent out your invites yet. There’s a good chance 25 people wont be able to make it. We invited 215 and got 170. But you should also be prepared in case everyone does go!
Post # 13
I posted a very similar post yesterday since my budget is also spiralling out of control. A Bee suggested I read A Practical Wedding- I think it might help you too
Post # 14
It’s hard to say – only you know your financial situation. if it was us, we’d just bite the bullet and spend the extra 3k as it’s not that much in the grand scheme of things. You’ll likely get some cash for the wedding to help pay it back after. It’s not like you’re 10k+ over budget.
Post # 15
Since our whole budget is $3k, I might not have the most applicable advice, but I would consider downgrading or eliminating linens/decor costs, alcohol costs, and downgrading cocktail-time food or eliminating “cocktail hour by the lake.” If it’s all in one site, you will really save and will avoid an awkward lull between parts of the day.
Then again, I’ve never been to a wedding with a cocktail hour, though I know it’s super trendy, so maybe that’s why it sticks out to me.
Post # 16
I agree with the advice about the guest list. Another thing you could consider is your honeymoon. I know for some people it’s important to do the honeymoon right after the wedding, but you could consider pushing it back so that you can use some of your honeymoon funds toward the wedding and then save up again for the honeymoon. Or do a less expensive mini-moon right after the wedding and have a more elaborate honeymoon later.