Post # 1
So the BF and I have been living together for 2 years, dating for 3. The engagement feels long over due and we both know it. We’ve talked about it a lot and he always responds with (very sweetly) “I’ve just always imagined me proposing in this special way- Surprising you, down on one knee, with the perfect ring that you’ve always wanted.” And continues on about how he feels like an a** for not doing it yet. I always feel like a horrible person afterwards because I don’t want him to feel like a jerk for not proposing yet–However, it’s obvious he needs a push to get the ball rolling. My guess is that things are way too comfortable between us and proposing is low on the priority list. He asked for my Father’s permission months ago so basically it’s just a waiting game now……
Anyways, we’ve talked about going ring shopping a lot (since he says he’s been waiting to pop the question because he doesn’t want to screw up the ring) but never made concrete plans to actually do it. Last night he finally asked me to go this Friday and show him/pick out ones that I like. He is financially secure so there has never been a delay for saving-up for a ring BUT now heres my question….
Because we’re going shopping for the ring together, am I going to have to wait MONTHS? I’m worried he’s going to make me wait a long time to try to “throw me off” so it can be a surprise. Any ladies have experience with ring shopping with their guy? What was the engagement timeline?
Thanks Bees 🙂
Post # 3
Well YAY! I wish I had more of an answer for you, but it really depends on the guy. My SO’s old roomie held on to his ring for a year and 4 months, and she knew it and had seen it! A friend that I was a BM for, he couldn’t wait longer than a week. Be excited to find something you’re going to love! Always focus on the positives and we hope your wait isn’t too long!
Post # 4
Hi there – we did our first ever ring shopping trip the first weekend in May. We are STILL waiting on having the final product done (we decided to go custom and the jeweler has not been very good, each time it’s supposed to be finished there is a sloppy error). The newest estimate for when it’ll be done is next weekend.. then I don’t know how much longer I’ll be waiting til he proposes. My best advice to you is 1) try to stay patient because it’ll likely be several months still before the ring is even finished and 2) don’t tell anyone. I wish I hadn’t because now I have a few friends who every time I see, I get a cheery “so!?! What’s up with the ring?!?” which makes waiting even harder because the ring process has been way more stressful than I had anticipated.
Post # 5
My guy took me ring shopping because he knew that if he went by himself, he’d probably end up picking something I didn’t like. So we started looking, and it was actually a couple weeks later when we finally found one that I liked at a price he liked. Once he had the ring, it was basically burning a hole in his pocket! He waited until the next time we visited my parents (about a month) so he could formally ask their permission, and as soon as they said yes, he immediately pulled the ring out of his pocket and proposed right there in my parents’ living room. He knows I hate surprises, and he’s not the greatest at manufacturing perfectly romantic moments, so he didn’t even attempt to save it and make it into a surprise for me.
My advice to you is to make sure you find yourself in suitably romantic situations with your guy as often as possible after he has the ring, so he isn’t at any loss for opportunities!
Post # 6
Do you think ring shopping beforehand takes away from the proposal? I’m just wondering if I’ll regret seeing the ring before we actually make the engagement official. On the otherhand, at least I know it will be a ring that I’ll love. Ugh, I’m all over the place lol!
Post # 7
One thing you could do when ring shopping is come up with a few options for him to choose from and you’ll still be surprised with the one he chooses… (unless you really fall in love with ONE and you would be sad if you got another one)
Post # 8
I’m excited for you!
My boyfriend and I went ring shopping together. He’s purchased the ring about three months ago but has yet to propose. 🙁
Post # 9
I’m in the same boat as MissBoston. We went shopping in May and are still waiting on the custom ring to be done. It took us a while to find a jeweler we wanted to work with and then finalize the design. Once the ring is finished it’s on him to propose, and I’m hoping he doesn’t wait long 🙂
I don’t think it will ruin the surprise to see the ring before he proposes. It’s not the same as when it’s your ring that you get to wear forever because he asked you to marry him.
Post # 10
I think I’ll go nuts if he waits a few months to propose! We briefly window-shopped for rings a few weeks ago and I saw a split-shank ring that I really liked but I haven’t been able to find a good pic of one online.
Does anyone have images of a split shank E-ring with a radiant/cushion/princess cut diamond?
Post # 11
We went shopping before the proposal. He wanted an idea of what I liked. We went to Jareds, and then a local diamond company store. I found a setting i LOVED at Jareds, but their diamonds would make the ring end up costing too much (we were trying to buy a house, and needed extra $$ for a down payment). then we went to Hannoush (a local store) and found a cute ring, in price range. I told him to get the Hannoush one, because I wanted to be budget friendly. About 4 months later, he proposed with the Jared ring….
I later found out he bought the setting fron Jareds, and got the center stone from Hannoush and was STILL under our budget! =)