(Closed) Going solo? Bring FI to my first dress shopping? – Stardust, Dallas?

posted 9 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Should I (would you) go dressing shopping alone? or take your FI?
    Go solo : (18 votes)
    35 %
    You need someone, even if it's your FI - take him. : (7 votes)
    14 %
    Don't worry about your girlfriend and the whole BM issue - just ask her to come with you. : (13 votes)
    25 %
    Don't shop - wait until you have your mom or have your friends who can go with you. : (13 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 3
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    853 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    if you don’t have a date or location yet, it doesn’t hurt to wait until someone can go with you. after all, if the sale is monthly, there’ll be others. 

    Post # 4
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    1246 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Yeah — I would probably wait. Some women really enjoy shopping alone, but for me, it was important to have my mom’s presence and input (but we get along well and I trust her judgment, which I understand isn’t always the case). If this is your first time trying on and there’s no rush, then I’d either wait or go by myself.

    Post # 5
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    276 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    If you can, I would wait.  I think it’s best to have an opinion there other than your own, and the bridal attendants are going to tell you everything looks great just so they can make a sale.

    Post # 6
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    424 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I took my husband with me, but you have to REEEEEAAAALLYY be sure you’re okay with that. I voted Go Solo, since it’s your first venture, you can do it with a clear head and vision.

    I have no regrets about taking my husband. But I did that after I had already been shopping with other people. He just puts me at ease in a way sisters and girlfriends can’t.

    Post # 7
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    355 posts
    Helper bee

    if it’s your first time shopping i would wait until you have your mom and other special people with you. it’s just such a special feeling the first time you come out in a dress and you’ll want their comments. i would not go with the friend- it will make you feel guilty if she is expecting to be a BM and you don’t end up asking.

    Post # 8
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    156 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    I went dress shopping with a really good friend (also coworker) of mine and she will not be a BM in the wedding.  I don’t think that just b/c a girl goes dress shopping with you that there’s an expectation there!

    And, please do not take your fiance!  If you have to, just wait.

    Post # 10
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    54 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I had a very similar dillema. I recently moved to Chicago and all of my family and friends are back in OK and TX, so pretty much the only person that I have here is my FI. I actually took him to the dress shop with me when I was reselecting (long story) my dress. I went out and showed him a couple dresses, but when I put on one that I thought might be “the one” I asked the attendant to make him go to a different part of the store so he wouldn’t see me in it. Just because he goes with you doesn’t mean he has to see you in the dress you pick!

    Post # 11
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    545 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I am in the same boat that I have no friends here and I don’t really want to shop with my FMIL.  My first trip to the bridal shop was a sample sale and I went solo!  Although I’d preferred to have someone else there to share their opinions with me, going solo is still doable if you absolutely have nobody.  After that, my FI has gone dress shopping with me 3 times, and he claims that it’s the best part of wedding planning so far.  He loved seeing me beautiful gowns.  I value his opinions over other people and I don’t care about him seeing me THE gown before the ceremony anyway, so it made sense for me to take him. 

    As for your friend who’s not your BM, I think it’s ok to invite her if you think she’ll be helpful.  She doesn’t have to be a BM to help you shop!  One of FI’s female friends actually volunteered to shop with me, knowing that I lack close friends here, and she certainly has no expectation that she’ll be my BM. 

    I think if you are someone who is normally ok to shop alone, going alone is perfectly fine, just for a look around.  But if you really feel like you need someone to go along, take your FI or your friend, if they are available.  You’ve got options! πŸ™‚

    Post # 12
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    521 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I went solo. I took a camera and uploading and email the pictures to my mom (cuz she’s have way across the country from me). My FMIL actually met me there after she got off of work and I showed her my dress choices and she gave me a little input and we purchased the dress that day πŸ˜€

    Post # 14
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    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I went alone! It was easy and honestly, i didn’t have to deal with them telling me it looked good when it didn’t. Only my mom is THAT honest with me =].

    When I found “the” dress, i sent mom a picture text message and she called me back and told me to buy it! Done and done.

    But yeah, it’s easy b/c then you’re just like “flip flip flip” through the racks and grab what you want. I think the attendants just feel sorry for you and give you MORE help which is great. At all the stores they were very willing to lace me up, etc, and had zero issues helping me out.

    Post # 15
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    385 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    Go solo!  I am going alone to look at veils today.

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