(Closed) Going the distance

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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3332 posts
Sugar bee

I think the main thing that proves to me that we can go the distance is that we truly have fun together.  He makes me laugh every day and for me and I’d like to think I do the same for him.  I figure if even at the worst, we can smile together, then we can get through anything that comes our way.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We laugh together and pray together.  He is always the silly one and I love his sense of humor.  We have a very silly side to us.  Also, we both place a lot of importance on our faith.  Since before we became engaged, we’ve prayed together almost every night.  I know that with prayer and laughter we’ll last forever. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

i don’t feel suffocated by him – we each have our space, and enjoy spending time doing nothing together too. in previous relationships i felt like my wings were clipped and i was solely responsible for my partner’s happiness. here it’s a joint thing.

i can talk to him about my freakout moments (there seem to be a lot of them this year) and he takes in in stride.

Post # 6
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323 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

When we first met we saw the crappy side of ourselves first, both clinically depressed and trying to work ourselves out of it again. It wasn’t all love and fairy dust straight away, we were both friends in dark places and pulled each other out of it 🙂

Post # 7
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3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

The way we react during the bad times. Even during our worst arguments, we never go for the low blows or say things we can’t take back. When are arguments are over, we always revisit them and make sure we both understand the others point of view even if we don’t agree. The fact that we can talk about anything…even potentially hurtful things and know that the other person will listen. We are just equally yoked in every way…from our upbringing, to the way we were living our lives when we met, to our goals for the future. It’s a wonderful thing!!

Post # 8
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2682 posts
Sugar bee

I think we already went through the hardest part – we survived a long distance relationship for a little over 2 years while I was in CA and he was finishing school in PA (and we had only been dating in the summer for 3 months before he went back to school).  We saw each other every 3 months or so and talked all the time and stayed together the entire time exclusively despite people saying it wouldnt work.  I figure if we already went through that we can make it through anything!

Post # 9
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3979 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

We’ve survived a LDR for the past 4 years. It requires an insane amount of trust, open lines of communication, honesty & a constant dedication to keeping our relationship alive. LDRs are the worst…. and most don’t last longer than a year.

We’ve also been through personal and family crisis together… more than I like to think about. Even though we’re 3000 miles apart, the second crisis hits- one of us in on a plane the next day.

We’re truly best friends & while we’ve had our bad days apart we figure it will be a lot easier to have our bad days together. Haha also when we see each other we keep it real… its not always sunshine & rainbows. We work hard to make our lives mesh.

We’re also going through immigration. Our lives & relationship is going to be dissected. I think if we can get through 4 years of LD love & the USCIS we’ll be just fine.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We’ve been through a LOT together.  Sometimes we laugh and say that nothing we face in the future could be worse than the things we already have.  We went through 3 breakups, 2 years in a long distance relationship, surgeries for each of us, deaths in the family, moving to four different apartments, going to school at night, working crappy jobs we hated, being totally broke, family problems (on both ends)…I could go on and on.  But we’ve stuck together through everything.

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