Going through a tough time. Career changes

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I know that career changes can be difficult!

I had the opposite situation – I was stuck in a dead-end job and wanted to go back to school for my Masters.  However, I was VERY nervous about leaving my job (and paycheck!!!) to go back to school full-time.  My DH was very supportive and I honestly feel that it was the best decision I have made.  We were able to make it work financially and I graduate in May.  I already feel that I have so many more opportunities!

The point of my story: Go for it!  I think your advisor gave you good advice about taking a leave of absence.  If you are truly regretting going to school, try to find something that you would enjoy doing. What types of careers are you interested in?  

Good luck!!!

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2014

hey! I feel like I was in a (somewhat) similar position and had to make some hard decisions a few years back.  I was doing my Masters program and was trying to decide between a PhD program and law school.  I took the year to do my MA, applied for law school then went to live in Australia while I heard back.  I know after three years of law school I was absolutely DYING to work.  I did a summer term at a Toronto firm and going back to law school (aka to more debt) was so upsetting, when all I wanted to do was get on with my career!

I think it would be helpful to know what your other options are.  Are you worried only about the time to complete, or also where you could get a tenure track position? Are you getting a PhD to teach or for another career field? It’s such a huge committment it is definitely worthwhile to consider your motivations and what you think might be waiting for you at the end of the education tunnel.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Oh wow. I understand you completely. I was in a similar situation in my 3rd year of university, where I debated whether I made a right decision. What I did, was I took 1 year leave of absence, during which I gathered up my strength, relaxed for a bit, concentrated on myself and meditated on what I really want to do with my life. A year later, I decided to go back and finish what I started. 

 

You can do the same. Maybe you’re tired from the university studies, which is absolutely understandable – I was exhausted. If you need to take some time off, it is no crime. Do it for yourself. The degree will still be there if and when you decide to come back! 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I did a phd as well and i totally regret it!!! I’m not one who wld leave things unfinished either but i really really wished i quit! I finished…but feel so unsatisfied and i was jobless For a long while trying to change my career path away from what i have been studying so long for.. With patience,  i finally found what i liked n i feel so much better! I just wished i did this sooner! So  i say go for what u want!! Quit now and do what makes you happy! U wont regret it if its wat u really want! Dont let others (family, professors, supervisors etc) affect u.. I did and i regret it..i wished i listened to myself then. Good luck!! 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Can you come back to your PhD after a few years’ break working?  My brother-in-law had a job for a couple years after college, got fired, and went back to school for his MS, then PhD. Now he has an internship but can’t find a decent job.  I mean – who wants to pay a PhD with basically no experience?  Part of that is his attitude that he’s above a lot of work since he’s a PhD, of course, but a lot of it is he’s overqualified with education and underqualified with experience at the same time.

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